Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Need some help with clothes

Niterider450

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I am clueless about what to wear anymore. I gave up on staying in style in middle school. lol I have not idea what clothes women find attractive on men anymore. Only the pants I have anymore are work pants and dress pants. Mostly just t shirts and a few dress shirts and shoes are just tennis shoes, work boots and a one pair of dress shoes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Start with Primer Magazine's "The Getup."

http://www.primermagazine.com/tag/the-getup

It's not advanced and doesn't vary much but it lays out options that are classically stylish, color coordinated, and layered to break down the basics of male fashion.

I'd also figure out what color clothes work best with your skin tone. I'm pale with green/blue eyes so I wear alot of green and blue to show off my eyes with subdued colors like beige, olive, and off-white.

http://www.askmen.com/fashion/fashiontip_200/222_fashion_advice.html

Take a couple of female friends with you shopping once or twice. They love make overs so they will be eager to go and may even buy you a piece or two. They will give you another perspective that you might not have considered.

Good luck.
 

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FairShake said:
Start with Primer Magazine's "The Getup."

http://www.primermagazine.com/tag/the-getup

It's not advanced and doesn't vary much but it lays out options that are classically stylish, color coordinated, and layered to break down the basics of male fashion.

I'd also figure out what color clothes work best with your skin tone. I'm pale with green/blue eyes so I wear alot of green and blue to show off my eyes with subdued colors like beige, olive, and off-white.

http://www.askmen.com/fashion/fashiontip_200/222_fashion_advice.html

Take a couple of female friends with you shopping once or twice. They love make overs so they will be eager to go and may even buy you a piece or two. They will give you another perspective that you might not have considered.

Good luck.
Thanks man
 

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Fairshake, good links - repped.

OP, also look at guys out in public places and notice who looks good and who doesn't, and then analyze the differences. Specifically look for folks with your body type and take cues from that. I have learned a lot that way.
 

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MOTU said:
Fairshake, good links - repped.

OP, also look at guys out in public places and notice who looks good and who doesn't, and then analyze the differences. Specifically look for folks with your body type and take cues from that. I have learned a lot that way.
Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dear NiteRider,
Your info on shoes is quite disastrous...It may surprise you,but most are obsessed with shoes...having such a Tall girl...Your current belle exceeds six Feet I believe...Heels are a must!...I suggest Zip up Cowboy boots...In Cool weather a stylish Ascot style Cravat/Scarf looks good!
 

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I've posted this advice before and it's always served me well. Find a celebrity with your same age, body frame, and coloring, and copy them. They spend thousands of dollars of stylists... look at what they wear in pictures and you will know what works best for you.
 

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Go out and about. When you see a couple and you see a girl who is attractive, one you'd bang, see what the dude with her is wearing and copy that.
 

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Man! Can modern "fashion" for men be any more unmanly? That's my main gripe with a lot of those websites.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's not about becoming a princess, it's about looking good. A man should dress well.
 

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Most guys don't have a clue how to dress, myself included.

When I started dating again, I made a small investment of $15 to buy;

AskMen.com Presents
The Style Bible: The 11 Rules for Building a Complete and Timeless Wardrobe.

Great book with simple, practical advice that you can build on...
Then head out to a local discount mall every couple of weeks after work and see what you can pick up.
Don't try to do it all at once. Be selective and (armed with knowledge) start buying individual pieces that work well together...
It doesn't have to cost a fortune.

And I second the comment on shoes...
Women LOVE shoes and it's the first thing they notice....
They won't typically comment on bad shoes, but will almost always comment on nice, stylish shoes.

You don't have to look like a fashion model...
You just need to look better than the last guy she went out on a date with...
 
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