Need some help possible BPD

[GS750]

Rugby, I agree.... I am a usually emotionally under control, cool, collected and pretty calculating. She had me doing things completely out of character. It is like they find one chink in the armor and move in. Cunning little manipulators they areI was meeting her at places where me and my wife go and was making out with her in a booth like an idiot. That's pushing it...do you want to get caught?She had me calling her from my house... while my wife was in the other room.Lack of boundaries Looking back I should have ran from the start. True. but you live and learn

She was in control from day one. More than you realize. Control is their specialtyShe set up everything and pretty much put everything on a platter for me. Made it almost too easyShow up here and do this... show up there and do that.... More controlThen she made sure to build this amazing connection off our pasts ( We knew each other 15 years earlier) Trying to build an emotional connection as quick as possible. Hooked like a bass on 15lb test line

I have not had any contact with her since Monday. Good. She's plotting though, count on it I honestly feel bad about it but need to realize that in 3 months she did not care about me at all. She cared about using you like an object and controlling youI thought about this...she never asked my hobbies, interests, where I went to school, any of my life stories... from day one it was just about sucking in another victim to validate her...everything we talked about was related to hooking up. The world revolves around her. There were days where she sort of vanished. Until she needs her attention/validation/sex fix then she reappearsI could not get a word out of her. She controls she dynamicIf I called her on it I got crap. Pffffft...she's oblivious of her narcissistic behavior. Everyone else is crazy/difficult/unreasonable. Not themThere were days where I was very busy... Would have a text from her... followed up by three guilt trips if I did not get back to her. Again, she wants attention and she wants it now. Impulsive and manipulative

I

Stay NC you're doing good. But hell hath no fury like a BPD scorned. She will feel hurt and abandoned and may try to get even. Best case scenario would be if she latches onto another guy super fast and writes you off. Your aren't providing the necessary level of attention that she needs, so this is likely. Jump on a new d*ck and start all over with the new guy.

 

[heater528]

I have noooooooo Idea where I would be had I continued down this path.


I cant imagine if I let myself get sucked in... boot my wife out... think about starting this new life and bam... realize she is insane and my life is in shambles.


Thank you everyone ! I am still in wait and see mode because at any moment this girl may try and blow everything up.

 

[Franky Four Fingers]

one word ... RUN

 

[heater528]

one word ... RUN

I have !!! So far it has worked out better than I expected. I have her blocked on my phone so I have no clue what texts or how many calls she has made. As I get further removed from this situation I am glad I was able to make the break so early. I am hoping she had other guys on the side and completely forgot about me at this point.

 

[GS750]

that's the ideal situation. and you'd be lucky in that regard. chicks like this usually do have a guy or two that they have stringing along waiting in the wings, so they just write you off and move on to one of them. they do have a habit of trying to keep in touch though, so by blocking her you've kept that from happening.