"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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need some help, not sure what to do

garruk

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so i've been dating htis girl.
i recently found out that she isnt exclusively dating me.

now the thing is, she hasnt really lied to me because at no point did she ever say she was.

she HAS been lying to other guy (her exbf), and her ex bf just knocked on my door (no idea how he knows where i live) to tell me this. he's incredibly pissed at her and has now sworn her off.


me on the other hand... im not sure what to do. i listened to his story, but im not mad whatsoever because she hasnt acutally lied to me. but at the same time i do feel like somehting shady was done (even though i dont know what it is)

whats your opinion guys? i need some direction, some pros and cons or somehting. not sure what direction to take this.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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have you been sleeping with her ? sounds like she is about to branch swing. You can understand why the ex lol (boyfriend) is pissed off...

It's up to you...are you happy with her level of integrity ? would you be happy with her as her boyfriend if she thought you were about two months away from breaking up and decided to start lining guys up ?
 

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If you're just using her then by all means, if you're looking for a relationship then my advice would be to look elsewhere. Her ex has blown her off, that means you get what's leftover, I am not sure if I'd like to have leftovers.
 

garruk

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ok so the girl completely DENIES everything and essentially says this guy is lying.


i have absolutely no idea who to believe.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sounds like you have a choosey susie. A choosie susie is a girl that goes back in forth between different guys. Now you gotta be thinking. How the hell did this dude figure out your address. This would be my main concern. Now if she is lying to the ex boyfriend don't you think she is/will be lying to you at some point?

This girl to me sounds like she enjoys having drama in her life. How old is she?
 

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sinnerman said:
no smoke without fire.
proceed with caution and dont get invested emotionally

i love this.

she's 25, im 27.
 
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