Need some help, LTR is "ending"

[IllaD]

Okay so basically I haven't been here in a while. Everything has been going real good, I got a sexy girlfriend, dated her, broke up with her, and started dating this chick that I met through Hillel, the jewish org. on campus.

She's like the whole package, she's really funny, nice, caring, doesn't deal with ANY drama, we share the same interests (for the most part), conversations go very well, she's a masters student: basically the whole package, right?

So since like July, when I came back from Israel I noticed she's been like.. or really the relationship has been like.... more distant. I'll see her less and less, and either i'm busy (i'm not) or she's busy, (im not sure, she might be).

Basically this has been going on for a while, and we ended up having a RDT last night. It kind of sucked, real bad. We broke up, or whatnot. She said she "doesn't feel that spark, and isn't sure if she ever did". She doesn't want to have sex anymore, we tried and for her it was just mechanical.

I think I lost some kind of raw sexuality, some kind of masculinity, some kind of power by being a nice, caring boyfriend. Too much rolling over on my back I think. I'm not sure. Then I left, to go drinking or something, it really was on my mind and I was real hurt. I texted her to ask her how she felt, and she said it really sucks.

I ended up going over there last night at like 2 am, which i knew i shouldn't have and sleeping with her, in her bed. She wanted me to. I am so confused yall. So she DOESN'T want to have sex because she doesnt see me that way, but she DOES want to cuddle, and not dating me is "painful" or "sucky" for her. Maybe there is hope yet.

Any ideas on how a once alpha male can regain his status, because I really don't want to lose her. Nexting would I think be a real downgrade. Really do love this girl, so cmon, any ideas on how to "rekindle" that kind of jank. :kick:

 

[f283000]

Start spinning plates. When a woman has you under control that's when it's over. When you're out talking to other women, gaming other women, your whole mentality changes.

She might not know you're spinning plates but it's almost as if women can smell it. They can smell you're a wanted man, they can smell that you have other women in your life, and that attracts them!

Go out, have fun, talk to women, notice your mentality change from a guy worried about losing her to a guy with other options that is full of life, notice her attraction for you change.

 

[sinnerman]

first and foremost go Limited Contact/No Contact. Let her initiate all the conversation. Make sure that you don't talk about sadness and being depressed around her(even if you're). Make sure that she knows you're living your life.
Once you breakup its generally over for most parts.

Ive had this type of gal. though i was able to stretch it out with her for 6-7 more months it eventually ends so its upto you. and yea start interacting with other gals on the side.

 

[IllaD]

Guess im going with limited/no contact. It really blows though, I'm so depressed. I havent been this sad over a girl, ever. She's the most wifable girl i've ever met, so I know that its gonna be a HARD replacement. :trouble:

 

[TopGun2000]

nobody is irreplaceable :rockon:

if she has no interests in you then she has no value to you at all :nono:

Guess im going with limited/no contact. It really blows though, I'm so depressed. I havent been this sad over a girl, ever. She's the most wifable girl i've ever met, so I know that its gonna be a HARD replacement. :trouble: