"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Okay, so I started dating this girl. We hang out earlier last week, and our date went great. Then we met later at Friday, and she really wanted me and we had sex. It was the greatest sex I've ever had. It was amazing. We also cuddle a lot and we're having a great time.

I followed her home, as it would be nice to spend a little time together, and Ineed to do some cardio before my trip to beaches in Greece. She sent me a message thanking me for following me home and for a great night etc.

We talked about meeting the next day, on Saturday. I sent her a message if she's going downtown (where all the bars are) and she said she was on her way. I didn't hear from her and I didn't want to be pushy so I just said "ok, I'm at bar x" and she was like "okay ;)".

I didn't hear from her that night even though she could have met me, got a message later the next day and she said she was at work, it's boring there, asked how the night was etc. We talked some more today and I suggested we might hang out some day this week. She said in return "Hey :) That would be very nice, but I am very busy this week. We'll see :)"

She lives here for the sole purpose of working, so I get that, but..

Why all the sudden isn't she so interested about hanging out? We're having a great time together and she seems very interested (at least until Saturday), at which I have responded and shown my interest too. Now she isn't that interested?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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he was right

the above dude is right
you are available too much, bring some tension and attraction here
you will be fine
 
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