I just met this girl(it was a few weeks ago). When we first met, I didn't really think much about her. I though she was pretty, but I wasn't attracted to her. Then I started to get to know her. She's an amazing girl, and apparently thinks I'm hilarious. I just don't know what to do around her. The other day(Friday) she was staring at me. I could tell by looking at her she was expecting me to do/say something, but I was stuck. Eventualy, I just looked away, and she went off to talk to her friends. I have no idea what to do. I just can't stop thinking about her. Can anyone help me?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Need some help, any help I can get from anyone.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If you don't bother to ask, then it's already decided you will get a no. No approach, no success.Stuff64 said:
Us blokes are born with 2 nuts in between our legs for a reason. Sometimes we just gotta grab them and bloody well do what we have to.
Deep breaths, chin up high, and just go talk to her. If you don't act, you don't succeed. Simple.
She has given you IOI's, she wants you. Now go fulfill her sexual desires
Alright. Although I doubt she'll say yes, I'll try. Thanks.KillaCam said:If you don't bother to ask, then it's already decided you will get a no. No approach, no success.
Us blokes are born with 2 nuts in between our legs for a reason. Sometimes we just gotta grab them and bloody well do what we have to.
Deep breaths, chin up high, and just go talk to her. If you don't act, you don't succeed. Simple.
She has given you IOI's, she wants you. Now go fulfill her sexual desires
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That denotes another problem, AFC'ish behaviour, maybe a little bit of insercurity in the belief that you are good enough. Down the bottom of this page is a link called "The DJ Bible". I cannot stress enough just how valuable this resource is. There is a multitude of articles covering your kind of behaviour. Have a quick flick through some of those articles.Stuff64 said:
Your happiness is paramount. It's not selfish to look out for number #1. But anywho, i'm not a genius in this area, but those Bible articles are absolute gold.
Have a look, and if any other questions, don't hesitate to ask.
I can't download anything on this coumputer, and I won't be on one that I can download stuff for a few months. Is there a way to read it without any downloads?
How do I know how nice too nice is?Remember. DONT be to nice..
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
No need for downloads. It's merely just a page that links back to articles posted on this forum.
No need for downloads. It's merely just a page that links back to articles posted on this forum.
rowing_mike
Don Juan
Don't know about you, but I'm into that sort of stuff.