"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Need some good advice, I think i ruined it.

gimmeyofonenumba

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She is a co-worker, but like i said in another topic i think its cool cause she works on a whole different floor and im leaving in 2 weeks. My intent was to take this kinda thing slow and ask for a phone # or a date after real good rapport was est.

Anyways I walked in and on the way up the stairs she happened to be there, she lit up when she saw me, I made a funny statement made her laugh and got to work.

I was there all day and was very tired as i was leaving she was still there, but i just wasnt in the mood to really talk, but i felt i had to say something, so i said hey blah blah "you look tired". It like set her off, She replied with something like "you shouldnt say that to a girl you'll make them feel ugly" but said it in a tone like she was about to burst into tears. I was real pissed to even hear this since i didnt feel like talking in the 1st place. I said something like "well i feel tired" and i just walked away.

-honestly, i cant imagine myself talking to her again without her being pissed or something, what yall think? Should i say anything in particular if i ever see her again?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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AmIAFC

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I hear ya.

The co-worker I smashed did something that pissed me off and I made a very nasty remark before I left her alone. I called her back up the next day to apologize for my actions -- apologizing for something you know was wrong doesn't make you a chump -- and she lit up. She wants to go to the movies and have a drink.

Whether I LJBF'd myself or whatever is irrelevant, because I sexed that and plus I think she's a cool/genuine person who I like to be around.

I don't think you said or did anything wrong. Give it time, and maybe she'll come around and realize how silly she was being.
 

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Alright, So you think i should apologize? i feel like i did something wrong, but dont really have anything to apologize for i mean seriously, I barely even know her, its unsual for emotions to be this high early on. I dont wanna wait for her to come around, and the way she seems to be, I dont think she ever will.
 

AmIAFC

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Originally posted by gimmeyofonenumba
Alright, So you think i should apologize? i feel like i did something wrong, but dont really have anything to apologize for i mean seriously, I barely even know her, its unsual for emotions to be this high early on. I dont wanna wait for her to come around, and the way she seems to be, I dont think she ever will.
No, assess the situation carefully. I really think she was being ridiculous, because you didn't say anything negative about her, nor was it your intention to do so. I think she knows that.
 

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Get her phone number and start this over when you aren't working there anymore. Call her up and ask her out in 2 weeks.

The whole "work" atmosphere is affecting things. Its not hard to wait two weeks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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