okay, long story short, me and my ex broke up. at first i did what i wanted and she was all over me, i went afc, then i guess she saw me as weak and ended it. this was about a month ago. we talked every once and a while after the break up and she would sometimes show some interest in getting back with me until we would get into an argument about something retarded. the last time we talked she said she heard i was saying stuff about her to people (which i wasnt, and the only thing i ever said about her to anyone was that she got mad over stupid stuff). today this was her away message "in class pondering why people have bitterness towards me, therefore telling people i dont even know stuff thats not even true about me...you know who you are". i know for a fact that is aimed at me because last time we talked she asked why i said stuff about her to people that she doesnt even know. we havent talked for about a week and a half (longest weve ever gone without talking) because i havent had the urge to call or make contact (thanks to sosuave.com). what do you guys make of that? is she just trying to be a *****? i figured if she hated me or something she wouldnt have even bothered to put something like that. do you guys think she was doing this to get me to IM her or call and ask what she was talking about? just wondering what to think, regardless, i realize i am the prize and she can go to hell.
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need some dj's opinions...
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
question real quick
Do you want to get back together with her?
If you are not than why care what she is doing?
If so, it is a common DJ principal not to get back together with an ex.
Do you want to get back together with her?
If you are not than why care what she is doing?
If so, it is a common DJ principal not to get back together with an ex.
Belgium_Freak
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forget about her. Remember, you'r on a quest to bone as much girls as possible so don't waste time mourning about her, instead do your thing on other girls man and don't forget to have fun!! 
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I thought the goal was to improve yourself to become the best man you can possibly be .
."I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
this is the deal. i would take her back but only for one reason. i realize that after I afc'd, thats what screwed it up. i would know now how to make sure i dont let that happen if she were to come back. and yes, we were in a LTR that has only been done a month so i am still kinda into her. regardless of all that though, i just wanted some opinions on what her motive was in that away message. anyone have an honest idea?
Forget about her...
1) "Is she doing this to get me to IM or call her?"
- Who cares? All that matters is that you don't care why she did it right?
2) "I realize i am the prize and she can go to hell"
- Stop lieing to yourself. You know that your acting AFC about her or your wouldnt be trying to figure out if she is trying to 'secretly get you to IM or call her with her IM code'.
She's no good for you. Move on bud, you know what the right thing to do is so just do it. You said yourself you went AFC on her. Fix it, worrying about if she is writing her AIM msges to you to call her is AFC. Just get her out of your mind the best you can. Don't call her.. if you find yourself wondering if she is hinting for you to call her go carve a duck out of soap or something.
Good Luck.
1) "Is she doing this to get me to IM or call her?"
- Who cares? All that matters is that you don't care why she did it right?
2) "I realize i am the prize and she can go to hell"
- Stop lieing to yourself. You know that your acting AFC about her or your wouldnt be trying to figure out if she is trying to 'secretly get you to IM or call her with her IM code'.
She's no good for you. Move on bud, you know what the right thing to do is so just do it. You said yourself you went AFC on her. Fix it, worrying about if she is writing her AIM msges to you to call her is AFC. Just get her out of your mind the best you can. Don't call her.. if you find yourself wondering if she is hinting for you to call her go carve a duck out of soap or something.
Good Luck.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
She thinks that you are being vengeful over her leaving you and that you are trying to destroy her reputation!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Player_Supreme
Banned
1. At least you learned from this life experience (cause that is all it is), not to wuss out once you land em. I do not know how many times I have stated this in other posts.
Fools stop doing the things that create attraction once they start getting the pvssy on a regular basis.
2. Forget about this ho and move on. Done is Done. Don't make me pull out WaterTiger's post on this site again. When a woman breaks up move the fawk on and get a whole team of women, while your waiting for Mrs. Right to come into your life.
A while ago I posted a post called the states of being. Your a prime example of someone learning some techniques but not making them apart of themselves. Which is why you became a Symp (sympathizer to women) after you got in her panties.
You didn't become a DJ, you acted the part until you got what youwanted and went back to your natural state...a Symp. Then you got played just as 90% of the fools on this site. Your not alone man. These same other fools do exactly the same thing and still do not learn.
You must not just apply this shyt...you must become this shyt!
Fools stop doing the things that create attraction once they start getting the pvssy on a regular basis.
2. Forget about this ho and move on. Done is Done. Don't make me pull out WaterTiger's post on this site again. When a woman breaks up move the fawk on and get a whole team of women, while your waiting for Mrs. Right to come into your life.
A while ago I posted a post called the states of being. Your a prime example of someone learning some techniques but not making them apart of themselves. Which is why you became a Symp (sympathizer to women) after you got in her panties.
You didn't become a DJ, you acted the part until you got what youwanted and went back to your natural state...a Symp. Then you got played just as 90% of the fools on this site. Your not alone man. These same other fools do exactly the same thing and still do not learn.
You must not just apply this shyt...you must become this shyt!