"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cmr662

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okay, long story short, me and my ex broke up. at first i did what i wanted and she was all over me, i went afc, then i guess she saw me as weak and ended it. this was about a month ago. we talked every once and a while after the break up and she would sometimes show some interest in getting back with me until we would get into an argument about something retarded. the last time we talked she said she heard i was saying stuff about her to people (which i wasnt, and the only thing i ever said about her to anyone was that she got mad over stupid stuff). today this was her away message "in class pondering why people have bitterness towards me, therefore telling people i dont even know stuff thats not even true about me...you know who you are". i know for a fact that is aimed at me because last time we talked she asked why i said stuff about her to people that she doesnt even know. we havent talked for about a week and a half (longest weve ever gone without talking) because i havent had the urge to call or make contact (thanks to sosuave.com). what do you guys make of that? is she just trying to be a *****? i figured if she hated me or something she wouldnt have even bothered to put something like that. do you guys think she was doing this to get me to IM her or call and ask what she was talking about? just wondering what to think, regardless, i realize i am the prize and she can go to hell.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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question real quick

Do you want to get back together with her?

If you are not than why care what she is doing?
If so, it is a common DJ principal not to get back together with an ex.
 

DJUofS

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Originally posted by cmr662
i realize i am the prize and she can go to hell.
Really? I doubt this.

Sounds like your still into her... If you realized you were the prize, you wouldn't be making a big deal about this girls nonsense.
 

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forget about her. Remember, you'r on a quest to bone as much girls as possible so don't waste time mourning about her, instead do your thing on other girls man and don't forget to have fun!! ;)
 

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I thought the goal was to improve yourself to become the best man you can possibly be:rolleyes: .
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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this is the deal. i would take her back but only for one reason. i realize that after I afc'd, thats what screwed it up. i would know now how to make sure i dont let that happen if she were to come back. and yes, we were in a LTR that has only been done a month so i am still kinda into her. regardless of all that though, i just wanted some opinions on what her motive was in that away message. anyone have an honest idea?
 

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Originally posted by cmr662
this is the deal. i would take her back but only for one reason. i realize that after I afc'd, thats what screwed it up. i would know now how to make sure i dont let that happen if she were to come back. and yes, we were in a LTR that has only been done a month so i am still kinda into her. regardless of all that though, i just wanted some opinions on what her motive was in that away message. anyone have an honest idea?
To break your balls
 

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Forget about her...

1) "Is she doing this to get me to IM or call her?"

- Who cares? All that matters is that you don't care why she did it right?

2) "I realize i am the prize and she can go to hell"

- Stop lieing to yourself. You know that your acting AFC about her or your wouldnt be trying to figure out if she is trying to 'secretly get you to IM or call her with her IM code'.

She's no good for you. Move on bud, you know what the right thing to do is so just do it. You said yourself you went AFC on her. Fix it, worrying about if she is writing her AIM msges to you to call her is AFC. Just get her out of your mind the best you can. Don't call her.. if you find yourself wondering if she is hinting for you to call her go carve a duck out of soap or something.

Good Luck.
 
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She thinks that you are being vengeful over her leaving you and that you are trying to destroy her reputation!
 

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Just tell her the magic 4 letter word

NEXT!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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1. At least you learned from this life experience (cause that is all it is), not to wuss out once you land em. I do not know how many times I have stated this in other posts.

Fools stop doing the things that create attraction once they start getting the pvssy on a regular basis.

2. Forget about this ho and move on. Done is Done. Don't make me pull out WaterTiger's post on this site again. When a woman breaks up move the fawk on and get a whole team of women, while your waiting for Mrs. Right to come into your life.

A while ago I posted a post called the states of being. Your a prime example of someone learning some techniques but not making them apart of themselves. Which is why you became a Symp (sympathizer to women) after you got in her panties.

You didn't become a DJ, you acted the part until you got what youwanted and went back to your natural state...a Symp. Then you got played just as 90% of the fools on this site. Your not alone man. These same other fools do exactly the same thing and still do not learn.


You must not just apply this shyt...you must become this shyt!
 
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