"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Need some advice

baddfishh40

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I met this girl about two weeks ago and I've hung out with her like 3 or 4 times. Over the weekend she was out of town with her friend and texted me at least 50 times and kept calling me asking me if I was hanging out with any girls and that she wasn't doing anything with any guys so I shouldn't do anything with any girls....... It is waaayyy too early for her to expect me to not see other girls. She kept telling me to call her but I really didn't have time to just talk and I really felt we were talking enough as it was.

She is absolutely obsessed. I really want to continue hanging out with her but she is trying to tie me down and I'm not about to put myself in a situation like that right now, especially since I don't even know her all that well. Now she is pissed off about the whole thing and she thinks I'm using her, but I really do enjoy her company. So my question is, should I just sit back and let it ride out or should I tell her straight up that I want to hang out with her but I really think she should give me some space?
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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mak23

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Hang out with her and see where it goes nothing bad can come out of that, if you begin to really like her, you wont care about her being obsessive. You know if you ever start dating youll have complete control and shell be doing w/e you say.
 

Arioch

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I wouldn't recommend what mak23 says.

Really, I'd just say next her. It already sounds like she's trying to give you too much of the company you claim to like.

If you really, really like this girl, tell her that she's going too fast and that you need more space, and that you wouldn't be asking if you didn't really like her (because you wouldn't! you'd next the sh*t out of her, right?). If she complies, great. If she gives you any more sh*t, YOU MUST NEXT HER.
 

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I'd suggest a next here. Too much maintenance required.
 
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