"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Don_Jon

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I met this girl, introduced my self and did everything right..got the number, the only problem is she lives 45 minutes away, and for the most part all we can do is talk over the phone, when i call her. We have plans for kingsdominion with a group of friends but I wanna keep the flow of things goin where im talkin to her pretty often. But again its over the phone and i'm not sure how i would handle it, cuz i tend to lose thought of what to say. Any help would be appreciated.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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italostud

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Find a girl that lives closer. Seriously, IMO, the long distance thing is a waste of time and resources.
 

Don_Jon

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oh believe me ive been lookin for girls that live closer, but this girl is different, cuz its like i have a clean slate, chance to start right from the beggining, i live in a small town so mosta the girls round here i already know but am not interested in.
 

italostud

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Ahh, I see. Small towns can be rough for meeting new people. But, I see your age, 15. How do you two intend to see eachother?
 

Don_Jon

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Shes 16 so im pretty sure she is drivin, and i have a good amount of older friends and my cousin is up almost every weekend, so gettin somewhere or meeting up isnt really a problem...i'd say im pretty fortunate to have people who can hook me up with rides.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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