"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mrbrooklyn

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I am taking a spinning class at a local city college. Not many hbs in my class but a few in the class right before me. I struck up a little convo with this cutie as she was leaving and i was coming in last week. Nothing great. What kind of opener can I use on a girl who is on her way out of class while I am on my way into class? She also has a friend who is very hot but she seems like a CB. I got class tomorrow. I need to get on this quick before she loses interest.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The universal opener...

What kind of opener can I use on a girl who is on her way out of class while I am on my way into class?
How about, "Hi."...

Seriously, it doesn't really matter what you say, as much as how you say it. Be desireless, be calm, be you. This girl may or may not be interested, but make sure you're not projecting any of your interest onto her actions.

That said, start off by using the context. Ask her a question about her class ("how was it?", maybe?). Keep her engaged in conversation for at least minute, so that you have her full attention. As you're at the class changeover, you maybe have only a couple more minutes, so as soon as the conversation is rolling guide her away from the context. Ask her if she is taking any other classes. Ask her what other activities she enjoys? Ask her if she's single!

Don't worry about number closing at this point. If it feels right, by all means go for it, but don't get hung up over it. Establish a connection, some rapport. You're going to see her again (probably) at the next class, so don't worry about getting it all in.

One final point: make sure it's YOU that ends the conversation. Should be pretty easy to do, you're on way into class, whereas she's got time to spare!

Have fun, let me know how it goes.

She also has a friend who is very hot but she seems like a CB.
Don't worry about the friend. Seriously. Just focus on the one chick for now. Her being hot actually works in your favour - hot chicks don't tend to ****-block, as they're not hung up over their friends hooking up. Beware the ugly friend...
 

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Thanks for the advice. i am a little more advanced than using the"hi" technique lol.

I saw the ho today and busted on her on her workout shorts. It said Venice beach on it. We live in Pasadena. I then got to talking about Salsa Dancing. I do this in Santa Monica. I asked her if she wanted to try it out with me sometime. She said yes. I number closed and date closed her to go salsa this sunday night.

Know I have to try and get the lay!
 
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