Hi guys!
Im back after 6 months...dunno if that is a good thing haha!
This site really gave me alot of useful insights and really has helped me maintain a relationship for the past 6 months and I thank all you guys for that!
But just to be sure im on the right track im back for some more tips!
I have been dating this girl, (20 years old in college, Im 27) for the past 6 months. Everything has been very smooth running up till now. We have never fought over anything, we make time to spend with each other's friends -usually I go out with friends on Fridays (she does too), but on Saturdays I go out with her (I see her up to 3 times a week) and I have been maintaining my friendship with other women to prevent myself into slipping into AFC ways (Still I have those moments!). We have planned to go on a holiday together for New Years - so I also had to meet her parents recently.
So far so good, except last night (maybe it is just her PMS moment, but maybe it is something more sinister - It may be oversensitivity on my part due to my bad previous experiences). She came over to my place (I had friends over too), and we were all having a few drinks and chatting. So at one point a friend asked her what she was doing for New Years. She replied that we are going to go to Goa. And then I said yea it will be fun! To which she said..maybe I don't know about that... So I took her aside and said..what do you mean by that? She then kept quiet and said I dunno. Then I said..well if there is a problem I really would like to know right now, cause I don't want to oblige anyone. Then she said no there is no problem really, but I was speaking to a friend this morning and he said that I should not be going and that got me thinking..but whatever we are going. Then I said what is it that you can share with your "friend" that you cannot tell me? Then she said look we are sitting with people here so I don't want to talk about it, but just that I have so many problems in my life that it gets me thinking sometimes when friends give me advice - does not mean I listen to it.
After a while we all decided to go clubbing..I caught her for a moment alone and said ok so now what problems? She said oh you know, my studies, my work, all these pressures. Then I said yea ok they are not big problems, to which she said maybe not for you. (Then I give her a "spiel" about similar problems in the past that I had etc, to which she gave me a hug so I thought that was the end of it).
Fast foward to the end of the evening when I was dropping her home, I just said all problems in life are solvable as long as there is health and hope. Then she said well that is only if you think about yourslef, maybe there are problems with those you love. So I asked her is there some problem like that? She gave no direct answer to that.
Then just after leaving her I said ok lets meet Monday. Then she sarcastically said maybe I will be busy. Then I said- Are you working? Then she said no. Then I said so why not? She just gave me this half grin, and said I dunno maybe I might be busy. I said bye and left.
I think this is just wierd behavior after 6 months. Any advice please?
Im back after 6 months...dunno if that is a good thing haha!
This site really gave me alot of useful insights and really has helped me maintain a relationship for the past 6 months and I thank all you guys for that!
But just to be sure im on the right track im back for some more tips!
I have been dating this girl, (20 years old in college, Im 27) for the past 6 months. Everything has been very smooth running up till now. We have never fought over anything, we make time to spend with each other's friends -usually I go out with friends on Fridays (she does too), but on Saturdays I go out with her (I see her up to 3 times a week) and I have been maintaining my friendship with other women to prevent myself into slipping into AFC ways (Still I have those moments!). We have planned to go on a holiday together for New Years - so I also had to meet her parents recently.
So far so good, except last night (maybe it is just her PMS moment, but maybe it is something more sinister - It may be oversensitivity on my part due to my bad previous experiences). She came over to my place (I had friends over too), and we were all having a few drinks and chatting. So at one point a friend asked her what she was doing for New Years. She replied that we are going to go to Goa. And then I said yea it will be fun! To which she said..maybe I don't know about that... So I took her aside and said..what do you mean by that? She then kept quiet and said I dunno. Then I said..well if there is a problem I really would like to know right now, cause I don't want to oblige anyone. Then she said no there is no problem really, but I was speaking to a friend this morning and he said that I should not be going and that got me thinking..but whatever we are going. Then I said what is it that you can share with your "friend" that you cannot tell me? Then she said look we are sitting with people here so I don't want to talk about it, but just that I have so many problems in my life that it gets me thinking sometimes when friends give me advice - does not mean I listen to it.
After a while we all decided to go clubbing..I caught her for a moment alone and said ok so now what problems? She said oh you know, my studies, my work, all these pressures. Then I said yea ok they are not big problems, to which she said maybe not for you. (Then I give her a "spiel" about similar problems in the past that I had etc, to which she gave me a hug so I thought that was the end of it).
Fast foward to the end of the evening when I was dropping her home, I just said all problems in life are solvable as long as there is health and hope. Then she said well that is only if you think about yourslef, maybe there are problems with those you love. So I asked her is there some problem like that? She gave no direct answer to that.
Then just after leaving her I said ok lets meet Monday. Then she sarcastically said maybe I will be busy. Then I said- Are you working? Then she said no. Then I said so why not? She just gave me this half grin, and said I dunno maybe I might be busy. I said bye and left.
I think this is just wierd behavior after 6 months. Any advice please?