Need some advice on juggling

[shredhead7]

I met a girl, had a date, had a great time would love to see her again and the feeling I believe is mutual.

I met a second girl, who is also great has a lot of potential, but haven't had a date yet. She wants to go out though.

I'm not serious with either of these two yet, but am looking for a LTR. How do I tell the two that I'm still just testing the waters without offending them. The first one (as that's the one I know better) is someone that I don't want to lose as we get along great and she's very good looking. However the second is just as good looking, with possibly more upside in the long run.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...How do I tell the two that I'm still just testing the waters without offending them....

Before anyone else replies, tell us why you need to tell them this?

 

[shredhead7]

Before anyone else replies, tell us why you need to tell them this?

Courtesy? I don't know. I've always been good at roping them in and before I knew it, was in a LTR. I've done that for the last 15 years, with a few girls, and I'm 34 and realize this is the last run (at least it feels like it). I know, it's totally AFC...Just want advice/reassurance that I won't lose someone good by testing the waters...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Courtesy? I don't know.

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I've always been good at roping them in and before I knew it, was in a LTR. I've done that for the last 15 years, with a few girls, and I'm 34 and realize this is the last run (at least it feels like it). I know, it's totally AFC...Just want advice/reassurance that I won't lose someone good by testing the waters...

Do you want to disqualify yourself right off the bat? Your problem is that you end up in LTRs before you're ready, it's something you need to deal with, not the woman.

The easy way not to end up in a relationship without knowing it is not to do things that people in relationships do! It's simple, if you're just dating, act like it. Dating does not mean relationship; relationship means relationship. If you don't imply that your dating is more than what it is, there will not be any reason to define it with words (especially those which don't benefit you what so ever).

Slow your roll, enjoy the ride, change direction if you need to, enjoy the scenery. You'll get to where you'd like to go but the ride will be less bumpy if you'd just slow down and steer around the potholes.

 

[LovelyLady]

"...tell us why you need to tell them this?" That was kind of my reaction, too... do you think they need to tell you they are dating other people right now? It is kind of assumed early on you are both seeing other people, unless you have already been physically intimate - then that's a whole other ball of yarn I won't even begin to try to unravel! LOL

Seriously, you haven't even had your second date with the girl you really like. Just be honorable and don't treat her as if you are more serious than you are really ready to be.

If you lose her (which seems to be your fear) because you want to take the time to be sure (including dating other women) you really are better off alone than with her, IMHO. Any woman worth her salt wants her man to be sure of his decisions.