Ok guys ive recently been ditched by my girlfriend of over 4 years, we did everything together, we were the perfect couple, we stayed at each others houses for weeks in a row, we talked non stop. we did so much special stuff and we always talked about how we were so special. basically, in the last few months i ended up cutting her out. i became selfish, and stopped bothering with going out with her. i used so many techniques and was such a jerk she was ALL OVER me, like seriously begging for time with me.
i dont know why but i thought i had her so bad i just started seeing her less and less. she moved further away, she made new friends and started having more fun with them, so eventually, we had an argument the day i was supposed to see her. i ended up shouting and hanging up. i then sat back and waited for her to contact me. i thought oh it'll only be about half an hour. it went on for 6 days. for someone who normally i dont spend an hour not speaking to, this is a long time. she eventually had enough of me cutting her out and being a jerk and is now getting on with her own life. I went round and apologised and told her a list of things i would change, and have changed, but shes not accepting. she says its too much too late. have u ever had a case of someone having enough of "jerkness"??? i was a complete afc and did everything 2 show her im not a jerk.
ive read all of these threads on here over and over and they all say to change and cut contact, but thats how i lost her in the first place. please dont be lazy and say move on. there has to be SOMETHING i can do.
i can a)try to be friends with her and show her ive changed and apply attraction techniques
or b)let her hear that ive changed and cut contact &make her miss me
what to do???
i know ur all against the friends idea, but when we met we were friends for a few weeks obviously then started going out.
i at first thought the no contact idea would work, but thats how i lost her basically. i cut contact and started missing calls and seeing friends instead, then she had enough and left.
basically i didnt lose her by being an AFC, i lost her by taking the romance and passion out of what we first had by not seeing her. maybe if i put all that stuff back, she will return?
dont say move on, because we both always said we were made for each other, i just changed too much, but now im back, even though its too late. what to do? at the moment im swayed in the way of going no contact, but thats what i did in the first place... damn im confused
i dont know why but i thought i had her so bad i just started seeing her less and less. she moved further away, she made new friends and started having more fun with them, so eventually, we had an argument the day i was supposed to see her. i ended up shouting and hanging up. i then sat back and waited for her to contact me. i thought oh it'll only be about half an hour. it went on for 6 days. for someone who normally i dont spend an hour not speaking to, this is a long time. she eventually had enough of me cutting her out and being a jerk and is now getting on with her own life. I went round and apologised and told her a list of things i would change, and have changed, but shes not accepting. she says its too much too late. have u ever had a case of someone having enough of "jerkness"??? i was a complete afc and did everything 2 show her im not a jerk.
ive read all of these threads on here over and over and they all say to change and cut contact, but thats how i lost her in the first place. please dont be lazy and say move on. there has to be SOMETHING i can do.
i can a)try to be friends with her and show her ive changed and apply attraction techniques
or b)let her hear that ive changed and cut contact &make her miss me
what to do???
i know ur all against the friends idea, but when we met we were friends for a few weeks obviously then started going out.
i at first thought the no contact idea would work, but thats how i lost her basically. i cut contact and started missing calls and seeing friends instead, then she had enough and left.
basically i didnt lose her by being an AFC, i lost her by taking the romance and passion out of what we first had by not seeing her. maybe if i put all that stuff back, she will return?
dont say move on, because we both always said we were made for each other, i just changed too much, but now im back, even though its too late. what to do? at the moment im swayed in the way of going no contact, but thats what i did in the first place... damn im confused