"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Im suffering from oneitis so ****ing bad, Ive known this girl and no one even compares to her, i cant get her out my head and she just told me she hates me and walked off because i tried to cheer her up (****ing AFC move). But **** man, I dont even want to spin plates because all the other girls just look like dogsh*t when i think of her?

What am I meant to do, I really need to get my **** together
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dekg140 said:
Im suffering from oneitis so ****ing bad, Ive known this girl and no one even compares to her, i cant get her out my head and she just told me she hates me and walked off because i tried to cheer her up (****ing AFC move). But **** man, I dont even want to spin plates because all the other girls just look like dogsh*t when i think of her?

What am I meant to do, I really need to get my **** together
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I've been there. You meet a girl that you SWEAR is perfect for you, i.e. your dream girl. But it turns out she isn't interested. Guess what? She's NOT perfect for you. You just think she is.
 
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Dekg140 said:
Im suffering from oneitis so ****ing bad, Ive known this girl and no one even compares to her, i cant get her out my head and she just told me she hates me and walked off because i tried to cheer her up (****ing AFC move). But **** man, I dont even want to spin plates because all the other girls just look like dogsh*t when i think of her?

What am I meant to do, I really need to get my **** together
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she told you she hates you? what did you do?
 
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Dekg140 said:
Im suffering from oneitis so ****ing bad, Ive known this girl and no one even compares to her
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Wanna bet? Take a piece of paper and write down all the positives this girl has and all the negatives. Be very specific, and no emotion.

Pros:
1. She is fit.
2. She can talk about topics that I find interesting.

Cons:
1. She has a crazy family. Liability.
2. Baby daddy drama.
3. Alcoholic.

etc.

Make it as if you're writing a report. No opinion, no emotion.


I think you will have more negatives that positives, especially since she told you she hates you. What a b*tch.
 
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f that hoe , because the best girl for you wouldn't treat you like that , no exceptions
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It just takes time. You've got to reduce your exposure to her and find things about her that you didn't like. You've got to remember that she's only human, and if you didn't know about her F-ed up past or severe craziness, then you would have eventually.

Plus, let's face it, if she's not interested then you're wasting your time fawning over her. There's no "getting" her and you should therefore focus on things in your life that are within your realm of control.

Get your stuff together and get practice dating so that when someone really exciting comes along you've got the experience and knowhow to get and keep her (and then realize how crazy she is and break up with her).
 
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Oneitis is the dating equivalent of unemployment.
 
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Just because a girl seems perfect doesn't mean she's perfect for you.The girl that's perfect for you would NOT shoot you down like that. You don't necessarily have to spin plates but at least maintain a certain level of detachment especially if the she doesn't seem as into you as you are to her.
If you've read the articles on sosuave you'll see that one of the advice given regarding "cheering up" a girl is to just not do it because you'll get associated with her bad emotional state.
 
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Hmmm... people rarely say they hate each other to their faces unless they're 14 year olds speaking to their parents.
Either you've been a real tit and you deserve it, or ........ there's something else going on. If you know what I mean ;)
My ex used to say she hated me all the time. What she actually meant was she hated the fact that
1 : She found me attractive.
2 : I was almost always right.
And immediately after saying she hated me would give me a hug, or whatever else.
That kind of hate is quite exciting actually and leads to good sex.

I would venture that women find it frustrating when they find a man attractive, because they can't control it. What they're actually saying is they hate the fact that they like you.
If this bird you're talking about seemed genuinely upset, then sounds like you did something really stupid.
If on the other hand she said it in a more adolescent toys out of the pram kind of way, I've got my money on that she likes you and hates that for some reason. She doesn't want to like you but does.

I think you're gonna have to face the music and tell us what it was you actually did. Also describe the way which she said it.
 
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