"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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aix237

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Real quick was the gf for 1.5yrs. broke up like 2 weeks ago. Talked to her maybe 4 times saw her once. I didnt call her all last week she called me last night too ***** about her life i wasl ike yea thats ok im going out so ill call you tomorrow cause she was suppose to come down yesterday but had to do some stuff. So i call her today and she answers real quick casual convo. say hey just checking to see if youre ok and seeing if you could come down tonight after youre done with your work.(shes getting a masters degree writing her thesis) its about 830pm here right now i talked to her at 2pm today she hasnt called yet. should i call her to see if shes comin or should i just say fvck it if she calls she calls and dont call her. what message would i be sending if i called and said just seeing if you were coming down or not. or if i didnt call to check at all?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wiesman44

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If you broke up, why are u worried about what message u are sending her ?
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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Go find something(someone) else to do........

I know it's easier said than done, but you really have to try and step outside of yourself for a minute and look at it from another POV.

You're broken up so move on.... Keeping in contact with her and still making plans (for some weird reason) with her will just prolong and worsen the pain.

She likes to know that you're still there and she'll try and keep you close but probably won't ever get back with you. you're a safety net... a security blanket while she gets on with her life... don't let her play you like that.

You owe it to yourself. fvck her.
 

blinkwatt

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I do not understand as to why you can not figure out what to do with a girl that you have had a LTR with.
 

Synik

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"Desperation is a stinky cologne." - Anchorman

First off, you should calm down because I can smell that cologne. Secondly, I have a good idea:

You call her.

(ringing)

Chick: Hello?

You: Hey Chick, hurry up, I found something for us to do.

Chick: (something chick-like)

You: Hurry up, it's getting late. Are you coming or not?

Chick: (something a chick would say)

You: Call me when you're here.

(click)

The game is dirty, but that's how it should be. Here's a good quote: "Make the hoe, say no!" Good luck

-Synik
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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