Need quick feedback please

[like2jam]

Ok, so I keep having these dates lining up from OKC.

The new HB7 or so, she's like, hey, let's meet for a drink tomorrow at 6.

I couldn't make 6, so I suggested 7:30 or later.

Now she's like, hey, that's dinner time! let's meet for food and drinks in this area and blah blah.

FFS. I'm so done with dinner as a first date with these women. It's breaking me financially. They expect me to pick up the tab and it costs 50 bucks or more every time ( including gas ).

I would still like to meet this woman. But I don't want to come off as a cheapskate either. Now what? I need some quick suggestions as to how to turn this around into just a drink outing again.

I'm seriously over this dinner thing unless it's happy hour and I can escape for 25 bucks or less. It just gets too expensive and I don't even know these people. I'm not a meal ticket.

So what now? How do I still meet this woman without having it turn into a spendy dinner date -yet again.

 

[Justin Time]

Tell her you're meeting mom for dinner at 5/6 and that's why you can't do drinks till 7:30

 

[like2jam]

I just said I couldn't make dinner tomorrow but that I could meet for drinks after at 8:30 or I could meet up at 6 on another day.

 

[Justin Time]

Well, as long as she's not pushing for a "why", you might be ok. She might assume that you're being cheap...Make sure to be spiffy for the date!

 

[like2jam]

LOL, I am being cheap. Fvck this ****. I'm done with dinner dates as a first date UNLESS I've already met the woman and I know we already have some chemistry.

 

[The_411]

Humor man humor.

She says let's get dinner you say something like, you've got to earn that privilege, or my mother told me it's rude to invite yourself to dinner/ did your mother tell you it's rude to invite yourself to dinner? etc.

She's imposing her frame here by trying to turn drinks into dinner. You need to keep control of the frame, by shutting it down. She'll respect you more and it will lead to a faster move into the sac.

 

[like2jam]

Good point 411. She certainly did attempt to turn drinks into dinner. Something to watch out for! I could have gone the humor route. Perhaps next time I'll try it.

I definitely shut the dinner option down. Now I'm just waiting to hear back.
I'll update as long as I don't run out of posts ( which has happened to me here before - 10 limit within a certain amount of time? )