Need Quick Advice

[Niq Nova The Mighty]

Ok, a fast break down of the past week. Prom is coming up in about a month and 1/2 and I was convinced that I should go. I was talking to this girl my friend likes (we'll call her Christine) and she said her friend (we'll call this one Chelsea) didn't have a date for it. This girl is pretty attractive so I decided I'd ask her. The only problem is that I've never talked to her before, and when I attempted, I got butterflies in my stomach and fled.

Now, Wednesday, one of my other friends set something up for us. It's basically a double date including the 3 of us and one of her friends. Since he works at a bowling alley, that was the plan. In the process he got her number for me (take note, I didn't ask him to do this) so I need a way to go about doing this without looking like I'm in 2nd grade and having my friends help me out. So basically I need you guys to help me out.

Her friend came over to the lunch table yesterday and said "I'm giving you a big clue, go ask her now" yet, I still pussied out. Like a fool. However, I don't want to have that happen again. I've read the bible a number of times, and I know that foolish emotions such as fear and anxiety can be supressed with simple logic, I just choked this time.

I plan to call her within the next hour, and make plans tonight, I need some advice on how to go about doing this. I figured I'd do something like this..

"Hey, it's NiQ"
"Hey"
*Small talk such as how are you doing blah blah blah*
"So are you busy tonight?"
"Nope"
"Well me and some of the guys are goin out, wanna come?"
"Sure"
*success*

Sound good? Help?

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by Niq Nova The Mighty
. The only problem is that I've never talked to her before


Sound good? Help?

If you've never met her before? Hell naw.

If I was you, I'd do this: Have her friend Christine introduce you to her (Chelsea, right?) one day during lunch or whatever, (it would BEST be done at the bowling place) when Chelsea is NOT doing anything and not with any other guys. Talk with her for a bit, then brign up prom, like this: "Ay, you goin to prom?" And she'll say "no", because Christine said she didn't have a date. Go from there.

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

Rochester? I play soccer in rochester - where ya from?

Anyways. You play the part of the blithering idiot quite well =). So you looked like a jackass a few times... it happens to the best of us. But shes desperate... usually ppl have dates to prom 2 months in advance. Lucky. Theres no pressure, she WANTS you to ask her... and as far as she knows, you're her ticket to prom (all girls want to go to prom).

What to do? Call her up, "hey, this is <niq>, <christines> friend... whats cookin?"

Dont make a big deal about not getting the # from her, it happens. Girls who want ****, want ****, how has little impact on the moment. Make small talk, have a funny story to tell... be interesting.

USUALLY you dont want to spend more than 10-15 min on the phone... but as this is your first actual convo, take a good 20-25 min to talk. Just relax, beath deep, and let the HS girl (aka gossip queen) do some talking. When the convo's going well anytime after the 15 min mark, start working towards a dateclose.

Shes telling you a story about how her manager @ work speaks 11 languages (including signlanguage)... you act interested.

"No way, thats cool! I always wanted to learn Cineese... hey, 900 million people cant be wrong! You know, christina, me, <randomfriends names> were going to hang out later, you should come."

"Cool!"

Simple as that. Remember - your not smooth, so have fun not being smooth.

Talk to me about this rochester stuff =)

 

[Niq Nova The Mighty]

I live in Henrietta, not sure if you know where that is.. pretty close to the city.

I called her about an hour after I posted. Made a date for that night and she gladly accepted. Unfortunetely me and my friends got into a car accident so I called her and she immediately wanted to reschedule so we made plans for tonight, and we'll see how things go..

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

Henrietta, eh? Do you know anyone who plays U17 jr Rhynos?

 

[blienk]

Lots of Rochester love in here...I'm originally from Penfield, if you play soccer you've probably met some people from there.

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

Yeah I know some penfield guys... where ya live now blienk?

 

[blienk]

I still live in Penfield during summer and school breaks, I go to college at Washington Univ. in St. Louis.

 

[Ace123]

Whoa. Small world. I currently live in Penfield. We have an awesome soccer team.

Hey Blienk who are you? Maybe i know you if you have a sibling or something.

Nice to see some fellow Rochesterians (and a buffalo guy)

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

U guys got AIM? Drop me a line...

 

[Ace123]

AceT123 is my s/n. IM me sometime.