"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need ideas/suggestions

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First of all, i'm new to being a pickup artist. I only found out about this about a week ago. Anyway, I need some suggestions on where to go to practice my pick up artist skills. I especially need advice on where to go on a Saturday night, by myself. I'd rather go by myself then with my friends because they are not the type that would enjoy/try being a pickup artist. In fact, most of them are AFC's. Anyways, please post some ideas

EDIT: I live in Tempe AZ if that helps any
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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firstly a DJ is not a pick up artist thats the wrong frame of mind, as for where to approch girls, well you could do this in bars or clubs (do not aproch girls in dark areas at night, you will only scare them) basicly you can just go up and apprch them in the middle of town or near your house, at the park anywhere you like!
 

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A fella on this forum named Eric Live who posts a lot in the Mature Man forum is from Arizona. Try Private Msg him.

Welcome to the boards...
 

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let me re-emphasize for effect. a DJ is not the same as being a PUA. since you cant even differentiate the two terms, i reckon you havent acquired/dont have the skills as of yet to try to do formal pickups. go read some more articles from the bible about pickup ideas and places. this has been covered upteen times before.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Senor Steel

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Its not the same but both use the same terminology? Both accomplish the same goal? hmmmmm
 

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NO!!!

A pick up artist can be a gay pick up artist or an AFC with cute looks who gets one nighters. A DJ is masculine, he pursues what he wants, not just women, in so doing he doesn't really need to pick em up, they will come to him. They will be attracted to him because strength, power and confident are brilliant at getting women all gooey in the fork. A PUA can be a $25K per annum pump man, a DJ probably has game at work, game at home, game at his interests, and this game equates to success with women....if he is in the mood.

I am not quite yet there, but am getting there pretty quickly, give me a year MAX and I will be a strong playa/DJ or whatever term you want to use.
 

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thanks for saving my fingers Sart. and 4 posts does not mean you know all your terminology and jargon.
 

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you or me

We were online at the same time their jakeyboy, you saved me a couple of posts as well, so consider it a mate doing a mate a favour.

As for 4 posts, it is also clear that he didn't read or study any literature before posting, but I guess he had to start smewhere.
 

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alright. but still reckoned he shouldnt have claimed that PUAs and DJs have the same terminology and accomplish the same goals. i dont think i was that confident after my first 4 posts. oh well. give him the benefit of the doubt. perhaps he read the wrong articles.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Woah woah, please don't attack me where it hurts, my 4 posts. Anyways, I'm here to learn, not to be attacked by insecure guys like you jakeboy.
 

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Guys, shut up with the PUA vs DJ stuff. Jesus. :rolleyes:

We're all after the same damned thing...our masculinity. Enough of this divisive attitude. If you think his question would be better suited to another forum, then LEAD him there. Don't b!tch and moan about DJs versus PUAs like you're trying to say one's better than the other.

Steel, if you want to learn true "PUA tactics", then you should check out www.fastseduction.com and the "Fast Seduction 1010 Player Guide" on there. That'll get you started. The DJ Bible is much more philsophical and although there's a lot of excellent material in it, it's easy to get so wrapped up in THINKING that you forget to DO.

As far as who's in your area, we have a "Wingman Forum" on this site that you could post on. Regarding WHERE, just go anywhere where pretty girls are likely to be. This can be a club/bar/lounge, the mall, school, ANYWHERE. Pick-ups don't HAVE to be confined to a certain setting.
 

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Originally posted by Senor Steel
Woah woah, please don't attack me where it hurts, my 4 posts. Anyways, I'm here to learn, not to be attacked by insecure guys like you jakeboy.
wow. no hard feelings man. you ddint have to jump out and attack me like that. just my opinion.
 
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