"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Zenboy93

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Hey guys I'm new around here and I need help 'cause my situation is getting a bit awkward...
Well as you see first I'm in highschool and there is this girl who caught my interest a while ago, we've been chatting throught bbm and I managed to get her phone number, I flirted with her but lightly (Yes I'm a bit shy but I'm practicing to overcome it).

I decided to try out and Invite her to have a drink with me at a cool place and she declined because she already had plans that day (I called her on the phone btw). I waited a bit so it can cool off and tried again but this time I called and when I jokingly said :" Now about that drink we had to take" She said :"Oh yeah I'm really sorry but last time I already planned some stuff with my friends" I said it was ok and told her that she'll decide when we will meet up she said she'll tell me the next day.

Now the next day she came to me and told me she couldnt 'cause the W-E she had a trip with her family (Which is true) and told me :" It's ok after all we have the whole month to set up something" but after that reply I kept the conversation flowing so it doesn't show her I'm needy or something like that.

I just wanted your opinions about what to do in this situation, and if you need anymore info just ask.

Thanks guys !
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NorwegianDJ

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Nothing seems wrong here, keep on going! :D
Just talk to her and stuff. Offer to meet up and that stuff.
Just remember the general stuff. Chilled out, confidence, kino, blahblah, display intrest. yeah
..Thats a lot of stuff.
 

Zenboy93

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Haha ok glad everything is going on well :D And to answer the question no I haven't 'cause I rarely got the chance to do since she's always around her friends but now it's summer vacation so it might be hard since we don't have class at all haha.

Anyways thanks for the inputs guys and if anything new happens I'll update !
 
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