"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Need help with what to wear

rushing dude 123

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I wear all this nikey stuff and i am 18. I am aiming to approach girls 17-40, but i think my clothes make me not very approachable and young, i think at night when i apprach people they think i am going to mug them lol. Guys what do u think or is it just in my head? if not can u giv any advice on some new threads, but don't want to spend loads on it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I can only speak generally, because the details will depend on your personal style, but:

Layers. Wear jackets and undershirts and stuff like that. Just a t-shirt and jeans is a pretty simple and young look. It'll make you look like your still in high school.

Accessories. I'm not talking to the extent that girls go with this, but a few extra things can help your look. A hat, a loose tie or scarf, a necklace, a watch. Those kinds of things. I'm ashamed to say it, but even goggles a la Mystery can be good.

Shoes. You gotta have nice shoes. Its a given.
 

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I normally wear a black tshirt and jeans...sometimes I wear the ones that are aged a couple years and look older, or I'll wear my fancier jeans. I was walking around the mall today, and damn..the glances I get. (I look just a little ripped..I guess)

But not one thing I wear is more then $25.
 

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Please don't tell me you wear baggy jeans and Nike basketball shoes. Please. Just get some clothes that fit. You say you want to meet some older women? I don't know any 35 year old women (aside from trailer trash) that talk to guys who make the baggy jeans/Nike shoes fashion choice. You wanna be a DJ? Dress like it. Pride yourself on your appearance. You don't have to spend a lot of money. You just need to quit spending your money on crappy clothing. Sorry if this sounds harsh. That is not my intended tone. And again, I'm not going to tell you what to buy or where to buy it. You can look good and not spend a lot of money. Peace.
 

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u guys got any stores that sell that sort of stuff i can go 2?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I just look for sales all the time. Accessories are pretty cheap and add a lot to your ensemble. You can also get some pretty cheap rings, but wear one on your thumb or pinky. You just need to keep your eye out for sales if money is a concern (which it is for me too). A nice belt, maybe a unique belt buckle. Tuck in your shirt so the buckle is exposed. It draws their eyes to your junk. If I were to spend money on one item, I would buy a nice watch. My two cents...
 

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Be color coordinated. Example; I got a black/white/gold San Fransisco hat. So, I'll wear a black shirt with somthing gold on it; blue jeans and black boots. Or if I wear my white hat I'll wear a white t-shirt with it. Girls like guys who wear clothes that match.
 

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Alright i am good now to start buying some new clothes seeing i came back from my cruise. I might first try some stores not necessairly design brands, but jus look for my style and then i am going to go charity shop and see if they got anythink similar there. I worked there once and i saw jackets that were worth £300 sold for £50 and in very good condition.

Also i might just ask some chicks advice on what cloths i cud get it might act has a good opener.
 

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here in portugal if you wear yourself all nikes means you prolly are scum. it's really the way that most rascals wore themselves and now it's really as the "thug" gear. unless you're doing sports the nike look ain't gonna help. plus you can always get better looking clothes for less. nike ain't that cheap :)
 

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Just wear nice clothes. Instead of purchasing a wide variety of "crappy" clothing, purchase a few nice ones that are well color-coordinated with each other. You can save your other clothes for when you are with the boys!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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-The Gap has some cool threads. Same with Urban Outfitters. Check those places out.

-I think you need to narrow your range of women down to 17-20...Women over 21 will rarely mess with someone under 21. Sorry bro.

-But please, god please don't conform to Mystery, no one can pull off a top hat except Abe Lincoln. Goggles, um no, you look very weird.

-A good example of nice style is Vince, Eric, or Ari's. Don't dress like Turtle, it's awful.

-Whoever said to tuck your shirt into your pants to show off your belt buckle, lol no. Don't do this, you don't see anyone in GQ or Vogue doing this, chances are because it's a huge fashion no no. Pick up a copy of GQ, that should get the ball rolling.
 

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Tzolking said:
here in portugal if you wear yourself all nikes means you prolly are scum.QUOTE]


yeh think its the same here man lol, but yeh ur right nike is pretty expensive, i will go and have a look round in some of the place u guys sugessted among a few of my own.
 

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B4IFURU18? said:
-I think you need to narrow your range of women down to 17-20...Women over 21 will rarely mess with someone under 21. Sorry bro.
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i know its hard man, but its possible and with enough experience i will succeed. if i make my range 17-21 i think i wud not have much a wide pool to choose from and by going for all women even if i fail i will b gaining experience so its all good and thank for the tips on cloths i will try gap and have a look round.
 

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wow can't quote properlly don't get the kool box round it.
 

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LOL, stop kidding yourself man...

Dude, you're 18 ****ing years old. Do you know how many 17-20 year old there are in London? A **** ton.

Hate to break it to you, but you're not bagging many girls over 21...unless you find that really horny drunk cougar who just broke up with her husband...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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B4IFURU18?

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I'm just shedding some reality on him so when he goes out and approaches the umpteenth 35 year old HB10, he's not shocked when she laughs at him for being 17 years younger, has no money, lives with mom and dad, and can't even buy a beer.

But by all means, go get em Tiger!
 

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well man u will never know till u try. I believe anythink is possible if u put ur mind to it, but on this argument i guess i am going to get back to u on it till i have some results because actions speack louder than words.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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