"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Need help with transition

rushing dude 123

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I have lately reflected on my approaches and reading a few back from the past and i feel the main thing that is harming my game and closes is transition, seeing near enough all the approaches i did was keeping on same subject it started with. Now i am pretty confident with my openers and then the bit that follows my opener, but i was noticing especially at work approaches that i have to some how change subject with in context preferablly ( and not going to comfort). Seeing quite a lot of u guys have maybe had the same problem in the past and r probablly good with it now, i was wondering if u cud giv me some advice or some tips that may of helped u.

Thanks

ps. going to go through djb with it has well
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Transitioning is not a step by step progress, it is a natural flow. Change the subject whatever you want, be as random as you want, who cares? The way I generate attraction is not with fancy lines or tricks, its always being generated by the way I present myself. Deep down, I'm very charming, fun, and just awesome to be around with. This is who I'am, I'm dont have to think about what to do next, my actions comes from deep within my core.

The best way to close, is think to yourself, Is this a girl I want to hang out with in the future? If yes, then go for the close. Its really that simple, you don't need some fancy line. I just say "Yo, gimme your #." And they give me it, I usually tell them to punch it in, and they do. Don't be the guy who has fun with a lot of girls, and don't close. The girls want you to close, your a cool guy, and they wanna hook up with you in the future. So go out and do them that favor. Good luck.
 

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After the opener .. a powerful thing that you must do is body rocking.
Then as a transition, I use "best friend test" or "how do you guys know each other". This can be used as DHV also.
 

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Yeh ur right evolution, i usually do not close has much has i would like , but i am working on it. I am working on direct game, but i am also working on indirect game, the transition is for the indirect game. I think its pretty helpful to have seeing a girl is more likely to remember u if u mixed things up a bit and gives u more information to pick out on her on the phone call. I understand it flows naturally to dude and it has been working for me, but so far i need to start off with some simple things to slowly move myself in more naturally in this area. I learnt paying attention to the convo helps a lot lmao. I will try ur random things though, like maybe a random observation and maybe some how link it into context.

Yeh macking my friend told me everything u exactlly said and i have seen him do the routine. I wasn't thinking it could be for me, but ur right it should definetly make it a lot easier for me.

i aint trying to make this complicated lol, but i just need a few easy things that i can use to transition, like maybe "so what r u exactlly doing here?" or "neat accent where u from" and the friend one mack just gav me.
 

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transition is pretty good lately, its making a huge difference, my interest and success is improving a lot with this. I am going to keep gaining more knowledge in this area and with experience its coming more easier, seeing that i get similar situations and i can transist it to the same subject.

this could take a few more weeks to master most of it, then i can go focus on qualification, but guys any tips u have r always welcome.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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curious what you're transitioning between. conversational topics? or are you following a particular pickup model
 

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I am all for randomness. It can be really endearing if done properly. No need for a segue. Just "so, what are we doing Saturday night?" Sounds crazy, but it works.
 

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no model just areas that r interesting and easy to transist to.

1. nationaility
2. what r they doing round this area at the time
3. cold read of job

if there is no where to go from the convosation of the subject we r talking about after opener, i will transist to one of these. I just needed a few more that works well.
 

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i tried a few random things, but didn't work. if it is c&f it might work though, so i'll give it a go.
 
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rushing dude 123 said:
i tried a few random things, but didn't work. if it is c&f it might work though, sop i'll give it a go.
C&F cannot be something you do, It must be something you are. You gotta be C&F all the time, hence you can pull it off effortlessly and not be thinking in your head all the time.

With practice, you will see a pattern, and master the flow of conversation. I goto college right now, all I do is say hi, introduce, talk about random ****, get #. Its really that simple.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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