"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Need help with this...eye contact in a gym

gundecker

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I'm not new here...I used to post under Phonk Beta but I couldn't change my password under that account so I made a new one.

Anyway, I go to a Bally's Gym and everytime I go, I make eye contact with a lot of women there. Usually, I'll make a long one with each woman but then I'll make little small "one-second glances" with them.

What does all this eye contact mean? I don't smile at all when I make eye contact with these women. I only do if they smile first.

What can I do to make this eye contact turn into something else?

BTW, I have a very serious demeanor when I go into the gym, which is usually why I don't smile. I know some people go there to make friends but I go there to actually put in hardwork. I'm a aspiring powerlifter.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SamePendo

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There's this guy in this forum, really cool. I've gotten the HONOR of meeting him personally, he rocks, he's coolness in it's most greatest presentation.

He has this thread that has something like "meets all women at his gym in a week" in the title of the thread, search for it. If you still have some doubts about this, he'll surely read this thread and give you a hand.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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gundecker said:
... I don't smile at all when I make eye contact with these women. I only do if they smile first...
How come? What are you afraid of? What's there to lose?
 

gundecker

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SamePendo,

I read your thread about the gym thing. Now, what are women thinking when I make eye contact with them all the time but do not smile? How can I make myself more appealing or more approachable?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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:cuss: WTF is wrong with smiling???!!!! :cuss:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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gundecker

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there are lots of homos that go to my gym. For one, there's nothing to smile about while I'm working out. And two, I don't want to come off as being one of the homos.
 

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I'll give it a try. What else can I do to make myself appear more approachable?
 
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