"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Need help with this...eye contact in a gym

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I'm not new here...I used to post under Phonk Beta but I couldn't change my password under that account so I made a new one.

Anyway, I go to a Bally's Gym and everytime I go, I make eye contact with a lot of women there. Usually, I'll make a long one with each woman but then I'll make little small "one-second glances" with them.

What does all this eye contact mean? I don't smile at all when I make eye contact with these women. I only do if they smile first.

What can I do to make this eye contact turn into something else?

BTW, I have a very serious demeanor when I go into the gym, which is usually why I don't smile. I know some people go there to make friends but I go there to actually put in hardwork. I'm a aspiring powerlifter.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There's this guy in this forum, really cool. I've gotten the HONOR of meeting him personally, he rocks, he's coolness in it's most greatest presentation.

He has this thread that has something like "meets all women at his gym in a week" in the title of the thread, search for it. If you still have some doubts about this, he'll surely read this thread and give you a hand.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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gundecker said:
... I don't smile at all when I make eye contact with these women. I only do if they smile first...
How come? What are you afraid of? What's there to lose?
 

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SamePendo,

I read your thread about the gym thing. Now, what are women thinking when I make eye contact with them all the time but do not smile? How can I make myself more appealing or more approachable?
 

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:cuss: WTF is wrong with smiling???!!!! :cuss:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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there are lots of homos that go to my gym. For one, there's nothing to smile about while I'm working out. And two, I don't want to come off as being one of the homos.
 

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I'll give it a try. What else can I do to make myself appear more approachable?
 
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