I am on the boys track team, some times we see the girls track team and this is this one girl, extremely nice. She has a bf but that doesn’t matter, that mother ****er fat as a ****, and plus she doesn’t even like him. She seams shy, cuz I haven’t seen her talk yet, so how should I approach her????
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Need help with an approach
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
DJ Alejandro
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come on, man.. you've got a lot of opportunities. maximize your resources.
ask about a common interest!
you could just come up to her say..
ive seen you around. how long have you been running/doing track?
that simple. dont complicate things. i made that mistake long before.
ask about a common interest!
you could just come up to her say..
ive seen you around. how long have you been running/doing track?
that simple. dont complicate things. i made that mistake long before.
AlexTheGreat
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12 hours 7 minutes, actually
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Don't call me stupid, u have had the best advice and am not following it, who is more likely to be stupid, me or you. I am not trying to insult you (although i dont like ur attitude towards her bf) as i dont care, i was trying to help you.
You know what the best advice is: READ THE BIBLE, it should explain everything. You can also use the search function, i swear i have seen so many very similar questions about approaching girls on track teams.
The gist of all the answers that you will get is to just go up and speak to her. I still have trouble doing it to girls, but what do you lose if she rejects you.
Grab your nuts (metaphorically) and go up and speak to her. The best introduction is hi, my name is . . . whats yours
You know what the best advice is: READ THE BIBLE, it should explain everything. You can also use the search function, i swear i have seen so many very similar questions about approaching girls on track teams.
The gist of all the answers that you will get is to just go up and speak to her. I still have trouble doing it to girls, but what do you lose if she rejects you.
Grab your nuts (metaphorically) and go up and speak to her. The best introduction is hi, my name is . . . whats yours
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
happymeal88
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Buddy, don't call anyone stupid. Cause it seems to me your the one having the problems, not us.
You see this girl all the time, she probably see's you. So while your running, if you see her, drop off from the group and just say something simple like "Hey, what's up?" and introduce yourself. Ask her a few questions like what's her name, what grades she in, stuff like that. Then tell her that you really should catch up to the rest of the group and ask her for her number so you guys can talk again.
Don't ask your friends to help you out, that will never work. She will see you as a wimp, and do you want to be viewed as a wimp?
Check out the bible, though, cause it really does help. Even if it is long
You see this girl all the time, she probably see's you. So while your running, if you see her, drop off from the group and just say something simple like "Hey, what's up?" and introduce yourself. Ask her a few questions like what's her name, what grades she in, stuff like that. Then tell her that you really should catch up to the rest of the group and ask her for her number so you guys can talk again.
Don't ask your friends to help you out, that will never work. She will see you as a wimp, and do you want to be viewed as a wimp?
Check out the bible, though, cause it really does help. Even if it is long
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.