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Kbish828

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A couple months ago, I met a girl out. We had some drinks and had a great time. Since, we have been dating and things were going great until about a week ago. I admitted that I lied to her the first night we met about what my brother did for a living. It was a pointless lie (just drunk and nerves) and I wanted to let her know because she was going to find out anyways. She initially just laughed it off, but then the next time I saw her she was acting very cold towards. She later admitted she had been thinking about it and is worried she cannot trust me.

I have not reached out to her sense, trying to give her time and space. I am mentally prepared to never talk to this girl again. However she keeps reaching out to me with snapchats and “Have a great day” texts. How do I proceed? Last time we hung out it was miserable, and I don’t want to walk into that again. Should I just continue to give her space and not contact her?

I figure there is nothing I can say or do to "win" her trust back and that I have "lost" her. But if she really does not want to "lose" me she needs some time to think about it, and then she will reach out to me.

Thoughts?
 

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It was a little white lie, I wouldn't worry about it. Just ask her out again, If she says no you know its done. If she says yes and she brings it up say it was a little white lie because you were embarrassed. Everybody lies about the little things.
 
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Never admit anything until you have sex with her, then let the chips fall where they may. What your brother does for a living, doesn't really matter to make her not able to trust you anymore. You showed your weakness to her, which gave her that reaction. If she is in contact with you, see how it goes, then go from there. If you get more coldness, then don't even respond to future responses.
 
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