"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Anchorman

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There's this girl who I like. She's got a bf, but she says she wants me too. I believe this is true because she always flirts with me, really heavy kino and stuff. Also, a bunch of her friends and people she knows tell me that she likes me.

But apparently, she's still with her bf, so she likes him more.

It';s not really my style to steal a chick from her bf, so i kinda left her alone, act alot more aloof and stuff. This seems to make her interest level go up.

Anyways, I know for sure that il have no problems tapping that ass when she breaks up. I dont really want her as a gf, but rather as a ****buddy or something. She called me and was "drunk", or so she says, and started telling me all the sexual stuff she wanted to do to me.

Now this is the problem: she has a brother, who is not realyl a friend, but just someone I hang out with at school. Some of friends from our group found out that his sister likes me, and they all advise me not to move on her. This guy, her brother, gets really pissed if guys hit on her and stuff. Typical insecure big brother.

For now, I got nothing to worry about. But once she breaks up, I would really like to get me some of that ass.

Any advice on what I should do? Go for it and ignore her bro, or just simply forget about it?

Thanks guys.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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familyguyfan

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Go for it and ignore the brother. He's not in the position to decide for his sister who she wants to date. Just try not to publicize it that you're going for her until after you already have.

And unless you know she's planning on breaking up with her boyfriend soon, you shouldn't just wait around for them to break up while she loses interest in you. Take some action, or at the very least, keep doing things to make her keep interest in you.
 

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if you do go with her, keep it quite. but im not sure its a good idea to go with a girl who is obviously attracted to another guy (and has no problem showing it) even while she has a bf. bu i guess its ok if shes just a ****buddy.
 

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Yeah, im definetely keeping her interest level up though with plenty of kino and stuff. However I dont like getting used for her attentional needs, so I act aloof most of the time.
 

VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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I'd be careful with this one. I've seen this kinda crap happen before. Most of the time girls will keep "flirt buddies" around while they have a bf to boost their ego. First of all, if she really *liked* you like she said she does, do u think she'd still be with her bf? Second, what kind of chick says she likes someone while shes in a relationship? It sounds like shes just playin you. If she breaks up with her bf then you can go for a hook up, but i wouldn't trust her for anything more than that. Beware of girls who SAY they like you when they're still in a relationship. 9 times of out 10 they're feedin you bs to make themselves feel better.:rolleyes:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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