"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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lamobatsman

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The girl in my previous thread- the one who didnt skype me for 2 months or call me. Well she finally wrote me and said that she did have strong feelings for me.

And now i feel like crap for messing things up. But if she had strong feelings for me then why she never made time to sit and talk to me in 2 months. She just fb me when she wanted.

Is she making **** or you think its true and she genuinely liked me??

Im talking to her to find out what went rong and why she kissed another guy in the club in front of me
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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seethehoop

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I didn't read your previous post but usually if you ask a question like does she like me, why is she sending me mixed signals etc it is usually a question you already know the answer to.

She isn't really into you and she is playing you just for her own amusement.
 

Purefilth

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The last guy fell through, and she's using you as a fallback.
She wants to feel secure, and wants to feel wanted. I would next her after the blatant disregard for your feelings as she made out with a guy in front of you.

Ignore, delete. NEXT!
 

Greasy Pig

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Judge ACTIONS not words.
We've already told you this. Drum it into your head over and over.
Until she turns up on your doorstep with a six pack of beer, a box of condoms and wearing sexy lingerie, she is merely talking shyt.
Her previous actions (blatantly disrespecting you) proved her words were just crap.
Don't take the bait. Start spinning plates.
But I know you'll entertain her.
If you must, push for a meeting ASAP and try to escalate. I'd put a lot of money on her making excuses not to see you, therefore showing her true colours (again).
 

PlayHer Man

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Go NC on her. Forget she exists and move on with life. Spin plates.

Men should never tolerate anything less that total respect from a woman. If she is insensitive and gives you crap... she should be treated like dirt.

She has nothing to offer you. If she can't offer you sh!t than she is sh!t. Leave.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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VladPatton

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Too late, too late! It's not just us guys that miss the mark, but so do these girls. And what do we do? Crumble and go soft and take their word for it. Meanwhile we are dealing with a species that gets turned off if you are too nice or too caring, or simply text too much.

No, man, let her be. I wouldn't pay attention to her bųllṣhit messages, Facebook drama or whatever. THIS is when it is crucial, THIS is when you show your backbone, this is the proverbial battle.

Don't loose that battle, keep your dignity.

N-n-n-n-next.
 
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DonJuanabe

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Dignity? He doesn't have any. It's all laying at her feet. And you know what? A woman cannot respect a man who doesn't have any dignity, and she cannot be attracted to a man she does not respect.

Ah, memories, been there, done that. You'll look back one day and realize how pathetic you were.
 
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