"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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lamobatsman

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The girl in my previous thread- the one who didnt skype me for 2 months or call me. Well she finally wrote me and said that she did have strong feelings for me.

And now i feel like crap for messing things up. But if she had strong feelings for me then why she never made time to sit and talk to me in 2 months. She just fb me when she wanted.

Is she making **** or you think its true and she genuinely liked me??

Im talking to her to find out what went rong and why she kissed another guy in the club in front of me
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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seethehoop

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I didn't read your previous post but usually if you ask a question like does she like me, why is she sending me mixed signals etc it is usually a question you already know the answer to.

She isn't really into you and she is playing you just for her own amusement.
 

Purefilth

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The last guy fell through, and she's using you as a fallback.
She wants to feel secure, and wants to feel wanted. I would next her after the blatant disregard for your feelings as she made out with a guy in front of you.

Ignore, delete. NEXT!
 

Greasy Pig

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Judge ACTIONS not words.
We've already told you this. Drum it into your head over and over.
Until she turns up on your doorstep with a six pack of beer, a box of condoms and wearing sexy lingerie, she is merely talking shyt.
Her previous actions (blatantly disrespecting you) proved her words were just crap.
Don't take the bait. Start spinning plates.
But I know you'll entertain her.
If you must, push for a meeting ASAP and try to escalate. I'd put a lot of money on her making excuses not to see you, therefore showing her true colours (again).
 

PlayHer Man

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Go NC on her. Forget she exists and move on with life. Spin plates.

Men should never tolerate anything less that total respect from a woman. If she is insensitive and gives you crap... she should be treated like dirt.

She has nothing to offer you. If she can't offer you sh!t than she is sh!t. Leave.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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VladPatton

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Too late, too late! It's not just us guys that miss the mark, but so do these girls. And what do we do? Crumble and go soft and take their word for it. Meanwhile we are dealing with a species that gets turned off if you are too nice or too caring, or simply text too much.

No, man, let her be. I wouldn't pay attention to her bųllṣhit messages, Facebook drama or whatever. THIS is when it is crucial, THIS is when you show your backbone, this is the proverbial battle.

Don't loose that battle, keep your dignity.

N-n-n-n-next.
 
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DonJuanabe

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Dignity? He doesn't have any. It's all laying at her feet. And you know what? A woman cannot respect a man who doesn't have any dignity, and she cannot be attracted to a man she does not respect.

Ah, memories, been there, done that. You'll look back one day and realize how pathetic you were.
 
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