"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Need help please.. good advice

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So, I like this girl in my class, but I havn't spoken to her in class yet, maybe once, since we aren't really grouped that much together, but I speak to her over FB and stuff and I don't think this is a good thing, so i need some advice on what to do
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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try to talk to her before class starts or after class, it will show you have some confidence. Talking to a girl on fb does not show that, anyone can do that. The only thing is when you talk to her act laid back, it's something girls like and it also shows some value when you do that because the girl will think he "since he's not acting too energetic, he can probably get other girls. People always want what they think they can't get.
 

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thanks =) yeah i will, but sometimes i just wimp out lol, i notice that we seem to be glancing at each other from time to time in class, so we'll see
 

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Don't think about failure or anything like that, it just brings down your confidence. Just talk about anything and if it seems like she's flirting ask her to do something, don't go straight into asking her to go out with you unless you're sure she'll say yes. If you don't know don't ask it shows neediness.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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something like going to the mall, something nonthreatening, maybe a group thing, see if she has fun and go from there
 
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