"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alright, so I picked up this girl last week at a restaurant (she was a hostess) and got her digits and immediately started talking over the weekend. Everything is going fairly well and suddenly she stopped responding the following week (Mon) to my text message (text ended with me asking a question and she never responded back). I obviously tried to initiate again with another and no luck so I stopped messaging and let it be. Now me and my buddies at work are going again today for lunch at the same restaurant and my chances of seeing her are very likely. Any advice on how should I approach this if I see her. Im thinking of just letting it be and see what she says to me and act as if nothing happened.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just be polite but nothing more. Dont bring up anything about texting and why she didnt respond. Shes not interested.
 
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TheException said:
Just be polite but nothing more. Dont bring up anything about texting and why she didnt respond. Shes not interested.
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That's what I figured, but its just weird that it went from hot to cold (i know i didn't screw anything up via text). Usually, they slowly let you off and not completely drop it if they aren't interested lol.
 
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poetic.mind said:
Alright, so I picked up this girl last week at a restaurant (she was a hostess) and got her digits and immediately started talking over the weekend. Everything is going fairly well and suddenly she stopped responding the following week (Mon) to my text message (text ended with me asking a question and she never responded back). I obviously tried to initiate again with another and no luck so I stopped messaging and let it be. Now me and my buddies at work are going again today for lunch at the same restaurant and my chances of seeing her are very likely. Any advice on how should I approach this if I see her. Im thinking of just letting it be and see what she says to me and act as if nothing happened.
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Why didn't you ask her what time she was getting off of work, then tell you to accompany you for drinks?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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@cword - Yepp definitely made some rookie mistakes then LOL, but considering she's 20 and im 25, I thought it would be easier gamee...

@Rex - I had some plans that tentative plans that night (which is cancellable), and I also thought I would seem to eager if I did ask her to accompany me for drinks after....
 
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TheException said:
Just be polite but nothing more. Dont bring up anything about texting and why she didnt respond. Shes not interested.
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Don't ask her anything. Pretend as if nothing happened, say hi when you see her, smile but don't waste your time on her.
 
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