So this year I have asked out and talked to more girls (also approached) than I have ever before. YEt I'm noticing a disturbing patterm. I'll ask a girl out she'll say yes and then my game pretty much falter. I usually use indicators of interests here and it seems way to strong so I guess I come off as ingenuine compare to my previous ****y and funny self. THis is a problem that occurs between the actual asking out and the first date. See I know I shouldn't do this but I:m not sure what to do because the girls that I really like and am usually attracted to can't take to much C&F. HELP. THANKS.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Need Help On My Game Asap
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I think you just need to practice your C&F a bit more. It doesn't come instantly, it needs to be practiced and turned into a habit. Eventually, it'll become a part of you and you won't have to worry about it.
Alternatively, can lower your C&F at the beginning to a more comfortable level so you won't appear different later on.
I'd actually recommend the second option cuz like you said ..."the girls that I really like and am usually attracted to can't take to much C&F"
hope this helps
-peace-
Alternatively, can lower your C&F at the beginning to a more comfortable level so you won't appear different later on.
I'd actually recommend the second option cuz like you said ..."the girls that I really like and am usually attracted to can't take to much C&F"
hope this helps
-peace-
Post more about how your game falters. Don't analyze just give facts... You ask them out, then what? Exactly how did you ask them out? They say yes, but then you call them and they flake? They say yes, you meet them, where? how did the meeting start? did you hug them? shake their hand? give details... don't worry about when you think the pickup failed, just give all details as possible...
OK I'll give an example here. I approached this one girl in the library at my school asked her if I could join her. She said yea we started talking she was laughing and smiling a lot despite the fact that some of my jokes were lame, indicating that she is interested. So I talk to her for about two more weeks and then I say, "SO you wanna hang out sometime?" she's like sure but also says I have a pretty busy schedule. I'm like alright and i think it is all good. I don't really change my behavior but then a week later (she was busy that weekend) one of her friends tells me that the girl I asked out thinks I;m a stalker. I'm like what the hell. I just don't get what I did wrong. Or maybe this girl is just crazy. BUt yeah lots of yeses no actual dates. WTF. Thanks all.
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Whoa buddy! You just skipped a week which resulted in her thinking youre a stalker...what were u doing?? Following her home??Originally posted by kidkoala
a week later (she was busy that weekend) one of her friends tells me that the girl I asked out thinks I;m a stalker.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.