So this year I have asked out and talked to more girls (also approached) than I have ever before. YEt I'm noticing a disturbing patterm. I'll ask a girl out she'll say yes and then my game pretty much falter. I usually use indicators of interests here and it seems way to strong so I guess I come off as ingenuine compare to my previous ****y and funny self. THis is a problem that occurs between the actual asking out and the first date. See I know I shouldn't do this but I:m not sure what to do because the girls that I really like and am usually attracted to can't take to much C&F. HELP. THANKS.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Need Help On My Game Asap
- Thread starter kidkoala
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think you just need to practice your C&F a bit more. It doesn't come instantly, it needs to be practiced and turned into a habit. Eventually, it'll become a part of you and you won't have to worry about it.
Alternatively, can lower your C&F at the beginning to a more comfortable level so you won't appear different later on.
I'd actually recommend the second option cuz like you said ..."the girls that I really like and am usually attracted to can't take to much C&F"
hope this helps
-peace-
Alternatively, can lower your C&F at the beginning to a more comfortable level so you won't appear different later on.
I'd actually recommend the second option cuz like you said ..."the girls that I really like and am usually attracted to can't take to much C&F"
hope this helps
-peace-
Post more about how your game falters. Don't analyze just give facts... You ask them out, then what? Exactly how did you ask them out? They say yes, but then you call them and they flake? They say yes, you meet them, where? how did the meeting start? did you hug them? shake their hand? give details... don't worry about when you think the pickup failed, just give all details as possible...
OK I'll give an example here. I approached this one girl in the library at my school asked her if I could join her. She said yea we started talking she was laughing and smiling a lot despite the fact that some of my jokes were lame, indicating that she is interested. So I talk to her for about two more weeks and then I say, "SO you wanna hang out sometime?" she's like sure but also says I have a pretty busy schedule. I'm like alright and i think it is all good. I don't really change my behavior but then a week later (she was busy that weekend) one of her friends tells me that the girl I asked out thinks I;m a stalker. I'm like what the hell. I just don't get what I did wrong. Or maybe this girl is just crazy. BUt yeah lots of yeses no actual dates. WTF. Thanks all.
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Master Don Juan
Whoa buddy! You just skipped a week which resulted in her thinking youre a stalker...what were u doing?? Following her home??Originally posted by kidkoala
a week later (she was busy that weekend) one of her friends tells me that the girl I asked out thinks I;m a stalker.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.