"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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NEED HELP on Inner Self

AverageJoe5

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I want to first thank this site. Thanks to this site I have come a long way. At first I came here like eveyone else looking how to seduce girls, then I found out it was about getting your Inner Self together. A girl I've known for a long time was even commenting on it. She said,"Look at you. You're a 360 from middle school. You're more talkative. More confident." The thing though now is I still feel I have a lot more to work on the Inner Self. I have two questions. I would appreciate any input I can get. Thanks.

1.) I want to be more open and willing to things. What can I do to be more outgoing?

2.) Sometimes I feel like I'm losing the confidence since I feel I lost control. I seem to be focusing on what others want and think more then what I think and want. What can I do about this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wiesman44

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1) : Its strictly a mindset. There's no tricks to it. All you have to do is decide you want to be more outgoing, and go through with it.


2) Same thing bro. Its a mindset.
 

LeviathanIYG

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Key 1: Look your best

Yes that means lose the man boobs, shave and wear nice cloths. If you look like sh*t you fell like, well you get the point. It’s not about looking like Brad Pitt or George Clooney you can only work with what you got so it’s about looking the best you possibly can. So stop cloths shopping at Target, brush your teeth and for fu*ks sake get rid of that green sh*t under your finger nails.

Key 2: Do things that make you happy

What makes you happy? (Insert answer)…….OK now do it. You have to do things that make you happy; confidence is all about being happy. So make a point of taking some time out everyday and doing something that makes you happy.

Key 3: Body Language

Get your dam hands out of your pocket, stop slouching, stop walking like a zombie and get that stupid frown of your face. Body language relates directly to every emotion you feel. When a person has negative feelings towards someone they will cross there arms we probably all know that, but did you know that if you cross your arms when you are cold you will start getting negative feelings just because your arms are crossed.

Think about it man, next time you are out in public walk like a confident person would walk. Put your arms down by your side, have your hands open, keep a straight face (you don’t want to smile too much) and walk with your head held high.

Key 4: Goals

You need to have goals you can work towards, give yourself something to do in life or else you will just be floating waiting to die.

Key 5: TV is the Devil

Ok I’m not saying to never watch TV again but try to cut down a little. Advertising is designed to makes us feel bad about ourselves so we buy the product to fill the void that they create in our lives. Her is an example “You are loser you can’t get women but hey look at this guy drinking coke he is a winner he is surrounded by hot half naked women”. Now you know coke won’t get you women but subconsciously it hit’s you, you see an attractive guy surrounded by women when you see **** like this 200 times a day it destroys your confidence.

Key 6: Talk to people

Go shopping to buy some cloths and talk to the store attendant. Take every little opportunity you can to talk to people, even get a job as a bar tender or a waiter, join a sporting team basically try to push your self into social situations. The more you talk to people the easier it will become. This will help you be a lot more outgoing it's all practice practice PRACTICE.

Key 7: The mirror is your friend

Hahahaha I’m crazy right? Just stay with me for a little longer. Every night before you jump into bed look in the mirror and tell your self “ I am confident, I am attractive, I am a MAN and any women on this world would want me because I am the perfect package” or somesh*t like that.

Sounds crazy but this works………

Key 8: NO MORE PORN

In porn you see perfect people, having perfect sex in the perfect setting. What do you do then? You search for perfection and when you search for perfection you are settign your self up for failure.
 
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