"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Need help making a move (kino)

Khag

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Hi guys, I've been a lurker for a while made some changes and had better success. Anyways I have a bit of trouble with kino, especially when I'm alone with a girl. Let's say I'm alone with a girl on a couch, or a bed watching a movie. How, and where (body part) should I go about making the first move? Also is it appropriate to use kino when others, like her female friends are around?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ready123

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google the Dicarlo escalation ladder. then at least you'll have a structure in your head

and kinoing around friends is situational - if you're just starting out, don't do it, especially the overt stuff. isolate first
 
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Do the old school method - pretend like you are tired and do a fake yawn, while at the same time stretching out your arms and putting your arm around her shoulder.
 

SharinganUser

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Just relax. Put your arm arround her, or try to hold her hand. But don't just hold it. Play with it like rubing it or something.
 

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Just rub the top of her shoulders with a firm massage, works or me. On the couch bit, you sit first, put your arm over the back, this is an invite signal.

When you massage shoulders, ask if she had a hard day because they're 'tight'.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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