"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Need help: long distance after 2 nights?

reese25

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Hey guys,

this is my first post, have been perusing some of the posts here and found interesting stuff - I'm a guy with I guess fairly good game, always have enough ladies at hand etc. I did not want any LTR for the last couple of years because picking up new girls was so easy - usually in the 7-8 region, sometimes a 9. I remained pretty cool with the girls, always.

Now it's happened to me (duuuuhh) - met a HB 10 at an event, every guy there was into her, but somehow she was into me (didn't even have a good game that night actually LOL), well anyway, we ended up in bed, was really cool and we hit it off extremely well on other parts of human-relations-spectrum too, always laughing, good eye-contact, etc.

Now the problem - we saw each other for two days then she had to leave for home: she is not from my place, is only reachable via plane (in reasonable time though), and she said she wants a boyfriend by her side and not somewhere else. She did (obviously) consider a relationship with me in her mind, but then said it's crazy, and she won't respond if I write her emails.

But she gave me all her contact data (and it's also for real, no fake). So I think it is just a "test" to see how stubborn I am. I have written twice now (within three days), no response, as expected.

My question: what should I do? Write every day? Only twice a week? Try to call her? Fly over? Damn. I never thought I would be in this situation, as my natural reaction to such as situation would be: just go look for a girl near you instead of chasing phantoms.

But this thing really hit me - of course I need to get to know her better, but this is in the category marriage (I have never been married up to now and was resistant to the mere thought of it.) (BTW We are both well into our thirties)

Help would be greatly appreciated, I can't get a clear thought. And again, I am serious about her.
Cheers,
R
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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scrouds

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Get your sh1t together man. Nobody in their right mind has a 2 night stand and starts thinking marriage.
 

reese25

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Yeah good point man well you never believe it until it happens to you right?

And as I said above, something is going on here because this NEVER happens/happened to me, so I do seem to be in my right mind. :woo:

To clarify: of course I'm not going to marry her just like that, I'm no idiot. I just wanted to indicate my level of seriousness, a level I am not accustomed too.

Constructive comments appreciated :)
 

ChumpNoMore

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LDR being the ultimate female buffer, I don't expect you'll get much sympathy here.

That said, your scarcity may helps raise your value if you play it right. GAME.

Best you can hope for is she shows enough interest in you to want to come visit YOU regularly, lots of enthusiasm on her end, and she suggests it and moves TO YOU.
 

reese25

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Well I'm def. not moving away here, so yes, I expect her to move to me.

The question is exactly: LDR - Game: how to do it - any pointers? (didnt find anything with search)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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The question: Why would anyone want to do a LDR game when theres a million other girls closer?
 

reese25

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@prettyboyAJ: because I have had enough meaningless sex with chicks I don't care about.

And most chicks simply don't cut it out for me - she does. Need I say that while there are millions of girls, when you get to the combo beautiful + intelligent + compatible on an emotional level it gets rather thin?
 
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