"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need help i have a hot roomate =D

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Throw in the sister line...

"You know, you are pretty cool. You remind me of my sister. We're great friends."

"You know, you are pretty cool. If I had a sister I would want her to be just like you - an awesome friend."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Pathgen said:
ok so i said i would post an update here it is:

yesterday when i was making dinner she came out and started to talk to me. I ended up treating her like a guy and just talking to her. I had No interest in attracting her.

The problem is she is attracted to me. She isnt obvious, but she smiles, plays with her hair, and is kinoing me left and right.

Its getting hard for me not to try and tap that. I really want too and i have all the green lights.

So my question is how do you turn down a girls interest level and just become friends. I mean i get that being an AFC will end the interest, but declaring my love to her and writing her poetry will just freak her out so i cant overdue it... Anyone know the fine line?
dude if she wants you just go for it. What the hell are you waiting for? Man some people are just so dumb. Who cares if you live with her.

Obviously it could get awkward but why does that matter. At least you screwed her.
 

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Throw in the sister line...

"You know, you are pretty cool. You remind me of my sister. We're great friends."

"You know, you are pretty cool. If I had a sister I would want her to be just like you - an awesome friend."
Thanks that just might work
 

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I spilled beer on her dresser at a party ;D. She didn't really get mad though instead she playfully got mad at me because she knew it was an accident. She is still giving me IoI's, but im not doing anything. Maybe thats why they are still coming. I thought that if i backed off of her she would eventually lose interest, but i think it pulls her closer.

Anyhow, its too soon to really call and if i dont do anything hopefully i wont get into a bad situation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Haha I can see a repeat of 1984 about to happen if he goes for it...

How exactly did that conclude? Reading that was like reading a juicy magazine article.
 

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Befriend her, for now.
But if shes showing interest then I see no harm in starting something.

If all goes bad, just be a mature adult and end it off on a good note. Things will even out eventually.
 
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