need help getting this woman.

[seanmichaels]

I just started work last month and met this woman and we talk but I don't know if she's interested in me, at first she wouldn't tell me any info about her personal life until I started to get her to open up and so far I know that she has two kids and she's married to a police officer however she seems interested in me by the way she talks to me and her body language, she is always looking in my eyes when we talk, the thing is, i'm in my early 20s and she's in her late 30s so there is a big gap of age which I hope doesn't matter here because regardless that she has kids I still want to be with her. Now I know she is married but I have a gut feeling that she is very unhappy with her marriage, she actually didn't tell me she was married but one of her "good friends" who is a male came up to me and said "Just for your information, that is not my girlfriend ok?" and he said this to me cause he said "I know you like her I can see you always staring at her and the way you look at me it seems like you think that we're together" and thats when I just said like "isnt she married" and thats when he spilled the info.. so when I told her she seemed like she was trying to keep it from me.

ok I personally sort of feel uncomfortable with the fact that she's married and I like her but I can't help my emotions and if I could forget about her I would but I just have a feeling that things could work out since we always flirt at work. Is there anything I can do for her to open up more to me or to just find a way to ask her without making her hate me like if she likes me? I was thinking of saying like "honestly I do like you. I know you're married and all but there is something very special about you.. I hope you're not mad" - what do you think? I feel that her husband is treating her like crap and it sucks because she's a beautiful woman especially at her age but age is nothing but a number to me. oh before I forget.. she seems to notice my car recently since I drive a car that she's always wanted and whenever I leave work it seems like she follows me the whole way on the freeway until my cut off its weird and she stands close to me like since we leave the same time she stands close to me while waiting to clock out, I almost just want to just put my arms around her like a couple cause of how she stands close to me but i just don't want to screw this up because I really think there is a chance.. I just hope that this isn't a fantasy. I am gonna lose this job at the end of the year so I need to act fast and I some what don't care if I make a fool out of myself cause once I leave this job I'll probably never ever see her ever again. any advice on what I should do?

 

[uniassign]

Dude, are your NUTS???

1. She is married;

2. She has kids;

3. Her HUSBAND is a POLICE OFFICER;

4. She works with you.

I don't care if she hot, or you have got so much in common, and she likes you BLAH BLAH BLAH. The chances of you actually getting this girl is F&*KING ZERO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

she seems interested in me by the way she talks to me and her body language

Dude, that's a way for her to validate herself. She wants to prove to herself that she is still attractive after having a couple of kids. Put your ego aside and look at the situation objectively.

she is always looking in my eyes when we talk

Hate to tell you, but that's how normal people communicate in western civilisation.

I still want to be with her

What can she provide that a 20-something, single girl without kids cannot provide? The fact that she is someone who TALKS to you does not mean that she is your soulmate. Fate did not put this chick at work so that you can seduce her away from her family to start a happily ever life with you.

I can't help my emotions

Yes you can, by talking to other girls

 

[seanmichaels]

ok well I guess we're just good friends but deep down I really don't want to be with her but I don't know why the hell I'm attracted to her... but her being married to a police officer doesn't really give me a disadvantage cause it's not a crime if she leaves him for me. anyway you're right, as I do comment her sometimes like I said I like her hair when she made it and stuff.. she is probably using me to boost her self esteem and it sucks to feel like someone being used. we'll see what happens. I really just wanted to avoid her but she keeps talkin to me I just wanted to ask her if she wants me or not cause if she does then I'd be with her but if she doesn't then at least I would know the truth.

What can she provide that a 20-something, single girl without kids cannot provide? The fact that she is someone who TALKS to you does not mean that she is your soulmate. Fate did not put this chick at work so that you can seduce her away from her family to start a happily ever life with you.

I just want a down to earth girl who which is VERY RARE here because most girls around my age are ****in immature and goes clubbing, drinks, etc. this is why I am attracted to women who're older.

About her looking in my eyes.. I know thats how people communicate, but she looks in my eyes in a sexy way like she just gawks at me like she's in heaven or somethin.

I dont understand why does she always look to see where I'm at and stand by me like she wants to hold me she gives me mixed signals these are signs girls would give me to say they are interested by their body language.

 

[Grey Fox]

Originally posted by seanmichaels
ok well I guess we're just good friends but deep down I really don't want to be with her but I don't know why the hell I'm attracted to her... but her being married to a police officer doesn't really give me a disadvantage cause it's not a crime if she leaves him for me.

No but I'm sure he can pin one on you for your troubles.

-Grey Fox

 

[seanmichaels]

i really want to know whats up between me and her its not that she wants to boost her self esteem.. whenever we just pass each other we don't say nothing we just look at each other and we both smile at each other and ever since i told her her hair is pretty when she put it up she's been putting it up ever day now.. i want to know whats up but its hard for me to tell her because i dont know exactly what to say but it seems like she doesn't care about her husband and he probably treats her like crap anyway sinceit seems like she isnt even married

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Originally posted by seanmichaels
i really want to know whats up between me and her its not that she wants to boost her self esteem.. whenever we just pass each other we don't say nothing we just look at each other and we both smile at each other and ever since i told her her hair is pretty when she put it up she's been putting it up ever day now.. i want to know whats up but its hard for me to tell her because i dont know exactly what to say but it seems like she doesn't care about her husband and he probably treats her like **** anyway sinceit seems like she isnt even married

You need to compliment her more, everyday. Buy her flowers. Ask her out on a romantic dinner date, and tell her she is very beautiful that she is a real woman and that you love her. Tell her you are a much nicer guy than her mean/jerk cop husband.

 

[PocoDiablo]

Originally posted by Gangster Of Love
You need to compliment her more, everyday. Buy her flowers. Ask her out on a romantic dinner date, and tell her she is very beautiful that she is a real woman and that you love her. Tell her you are a much nicer guy than her mean/jerk cop husband.

Ha. Ha ha. Haaa ahhahah aaa. BWAAAAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA. <sniff> Ha.

That is EXACTLY what she wants. Women love to find guys like that, and promptly clean out their checking accounts!

There are tons of resources on this site that you need to read up on. #1 rule for me is to be sure the woman I am seeing is (1) interested in me AND single. If not, she is using you. This woman is NOT interested in you (otherwise she would have screwed you) and is not single (she would have dumped the husband.)

Oh yeah, I should add, ADULTRY IS ILLEGAL IN MANY STATES.

 

[Chemistry]

What makes this woman so different than every other woman out?

She looks good, OK... you can't tell me she's the hottest woman you've ever seen tho! And if she's the only woman you get on this well with then you need to talk to some more women!

I'd bring that sexual tension into it not because you're gonna have a future together, but because it's a potential **** at the Christmas party... just depends on her morals and ethics

 

[thefonz]

i got a solution

Go to her house and beat the husband with his own nightstick......then poison the kids fruitloops while they're eating breakfast....after that write a bomb threat forging her name on it and leave it on the bosses desk so she gets fired.....then run away with her to finland where older women younger man relationships are acceptable and live happily ever after

.......stupid

 

[seanmichaels]

well I had asked her today and she admitted to me that she likes me but i didnt talk to her for a long time I asked her to lunch tomorrow since she always eats lunch by herself, what exactly could happen? I mean at this point I think that she's seperated with her husband even though they are still married which is why she was flirting with me so I made the first move