"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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simile

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Ok im a little new to the DJ thing, but this website is awesome. it has really helped me out with some issues but this one im still stomped on. here is the situation:

I'm a freshman in college and I really want to hook up with girl who I went to high school with and now goes to the same college with me. I dont see her very often because she is always on the move, and when I do see her I can't make a move because she is with one of 2 boys that I know she has at least a crush on. And she spends every waking moment with at least one of these guys. This is where the situation gets complicated. Both of the boys she likes have girlfriends. and both of these guys are good friends of mine. here is where the DJ philosophy works against me. she wants them so badly because she knows she can't have them. These guys have HOT girlfriends (8.5, 9), and I'm very sure that these guys won't break up any time soon. Now every time I try to talk to her online, she ignores me. When I try to talk to her in person, she doesn't contribute much to the conversation and will usually put all of her attention on one of the 2 guys she likes. We have been friends, not that good of friends, but
friends, for about 3 years. We have never hung out much at all and I can never seem to be able to find out where she is going to party before the party is already over. I really want to hook up with this girl but she doesn't seem to have any interest in me and seems to isolate herself so I can't make a move. Some help here would really be appericiated here, thanks DJs.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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speedo_meme

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Dude it seems like you've answered your own question. As hard as it is to realize, forget about her. She doesn't want you, even you know this, you don't need sosuave to figure that out. Personally I hate the advice "Go meet other girls" or "next her" because it's a wide open answer, but it's very legit. At the same time, keep being nice and friendly to her but don't go out of your way for her.
 

The Nice Guy is Gone

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really want to hook up with this girl but she doesn't seem to have any interest in me
 

thefonz

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What's so great about this girl that she occupies your thoughts all day long? If when answering this question you keep coming back to the answer "She is hot", then you need to reevaluate what your doing and focus inward not ******d. We are all luminous beings......not just different variations of physical matter. Why does she make you feel the way she does? Sweet scent? Feminine voice? Sexy walk? Wow, I don't know any girls like that.....

I bet while your chasing after this one there's at least 3 other girls that want you that you aren't aware of cus you can't stop tinking about your oneitis. I'm sure other people have things to say so I'll shutup
 
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