"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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simile

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Ok im a little new to the DJ thing, but this website is awesome. it has really helped me out with some issues but this one im still stomped on. here is the situation:

I'm a freshman in college and I really want to hook up with girl who I went to high school with and now goes to the same college with me. I dont see her very often because she is always on the move, and when I do see her I can't make a move because she is with one of 2 boys that I know she has at least a crush on. And she spends every waking moment with at least one of these guys. This is where the situation gets complicated. Both of the boys she likes have girlfriends. and both of these guys are good friends of mine. here is where the DJ philosophy works against me. she wants them so badly because she knows she can't have them. These guys have HOT girlfriends (8.5, 9), and I'm very sure that these guys won't break up any time soon. Now every time I try to talk to her online, she ignores me. When I try to talk to her in person, she doesn't contribute much to the conversation and will usually put all of her attention on one of the 2 guys she likes. We have been friends, not that good of friends, but
friends, for about 3 years. We have never hung out much at all and I can never seem to be able to find out where she is going to party before the party is already over. I really want to hook up with this girl but she doesn't seem to have any interest in me and seems to isolate herself so I can't make a move. Some help here would really be appericiated here, thanks DJs.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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speedo_meme

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Dude it seems like you've answered your own question. As hard as it is to realize, forget about her. She doesn't want you, even you know this, you don't need sosuave to figure that out. Personally I hate the advice "Go meet other girls" or "next her" because it's a wide open answer, but it's very legit. At the same time, keep being nice and friendly to her but don't go out of your way for her.
 

The Nice Guy is Gone

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really want to hook up with this girl but she doesn't seem to have any interest in me
 

thefonz

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What's so great about this girl that she occupies your thoughts all day long? If when answering this question you keep coming back to the answer "She is hot", then you need to reevaluate what your doing and focus inward not ******d. We are all luminous beings......not just different variations of physical matter. Why does she make you feel the way she does? Sweet scent? Feminine voice? Sexy walk? Wow, I don't know any girls like that.....

I bet while your chasing after this one there's at least 3 other girls that want you that you aren't aware of cus you can't stop tinking about your oneitis. I'm sure other people have things to say so I'll shutup
 
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