"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Here is my problem:
I have this ex (I broke up with her about 3 weeks ago and since then I didn't contact her at all) but now I really need something from her (she can help my parents with some very important stuff).
So now I am thinking how to approach her...the thing is that when I broke up with her I was very clear that "I don't need you as a friend" thing :rolleyes:
I am not worried about what she thinks really,but I don't want to be some kind of hypocrite.

So any suggestions ???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would email her and explain to her how your parents could really use her help. I wouldn't normally suggest using email as a mode of contact as its AFC, however in this scenario, it will allow you to explain how she can help someone without her getting all emotional on you and drawing conclusions before you get a chance to explain yourself.
 
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I am more into calling her.I don't like all this email/yahoo or whatever stuff.

without her getting all emotional on you and drawing conclusions before you get a chance to explain yourself.
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That's the reason why I am a little "confused" about this.That is what I am trying to avoid.
 
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yogy said:
I am more into calling her.I don't like all this email/yahoo or whatever stuff.
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I agree with you 100%. However women prefer it as a mode of communication because they like to avoid conflict, they would rather pretend their isn't conflict rather than deal with it.



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That's the reason why I am a little "confused" about this.That is what I am trying to avoid.
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This is exactly my point. Your more likely to get an over reaction if you phone her. hence the email suggestion.
 
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give your parents her number, and they can call her - leave your self out of it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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spider_007 said:
give your parents her number, and they can call her - leave your self out of it.
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bingo :cool:
 
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give your parents her number, and they can call her - leave your self out of it.
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Why to involve my parents in this stuff ??? better just try to find another way (to help them) then this.
 
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Why to involve my parents in this stuff ??? better just try to find another way (to help them) then this.
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this is your parents problem no?

if she can really help, your parents will call her up.. if they have no other option..
 
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We've given you 2 good solutions that will work with no problems on you but you don't want to do them, you want to call her, so just call her and quit wasting our time asking for advice your not going to take.
 
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