Need help from my ex...

[yogy]

Here is my problem:
I have this ex (I broke up with her about 3 weeks ago and since then I didn't contact her at all) but now I really need something from her (she can help my parents with some very important stuff).
So now I am thinking how to approach her...the thing is that when I broke up with her I was very clear that "I don't need you as a friend" thing
I am not worried about what she thinks really,but I don't want to be some kind of hypocrite.

So any suggestions ???

 

[MacAvoy]

I would email her and explain to her how your parents could really use her help. I wouldn't normally suggest using email as a mode of contact as its AFC, however in this scenario, it will allow you to explain how she can help someone without her getting all emotional on you and drawing conclusions before you get a chance to explain yourself.

 

[yogy]

I am more into calling her.I don't like all this email/yahoo or whatever stuff.

without her getting all emotional on you and drawing conclusions before you get a chance to explain yourself.

That's the reason why I am a little "confused" about this.That is what I am trying to avoid.

 

[MacAvoy]

I am more into calling her.I don't like all this email/yahoo or whatever stuff.

I agree with you 100%. However women prefer it as a mode of communication because they like to avoid conflict, they would rather pretend their isn't conflict rather than deal with it.

That's the reason why I am a little "confused" about this.That is what I am trying to avoid.

This is exactly my point. Your more likely to get an over reaction if you phone her. hence the email suggestion.

 

[spider_007]

give your parents her number, and they can call her - leave your self out of it.

 

[sav]

give your parents her number, and they can call her - leave your self out of it.

bingo

 

[yogy]

give your parents her number, and they can call her - leave your self out of it.

Why to involve my parents in this stuff ??? better just try to find another way (to help them) then this.

 

[sav]

Why to involve my parents in this stuff ??? better just try to find another way (to help them) then this.

this is your parents problem no?

if she can really help, your parents will call her up.. if they have no other option..

 

[MacAvoy]

We've given you 2 good solutions that will work with no problems on you but you don't want to do them, you want to call her, so just call her and quit wasting our time asking for advice your not going to take.