"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bawb14

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Okay I think I already knwo the answer to this question but...

This girl I was chillen with, was fun we walked around in a park we sat in benches N like cuddled and **** and went to the mall and we layed around on all the little futton and beds and stuff, but like she DID keep mentioning her Ex, like six times and every time, "oh im sorry am I mentioning my ex too much". Now wtf is that. If that's not a "Move-On" sign, what is. Although, the breakup was recent(2 weeks) do i move on, or do i try with this girl again, she seemed to give a few IOI's and such tho. Thanks elder's,

-Bawb!:nervous:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Adam B

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Just be assertive and tell her that her ex is towards the bottom of your list of things you would like to hear about. When she starts talking about him, just yawn. Or, if you wanna be more straight forward, tell her you really don't want to hear about it.
 

SinJester

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I agree with Adam. You don't have to ditch her. Tell her you don't want to talk about her ex. If she runs away you are better of without her, but I'm certain she wont. Have some other girls as options though.
 

VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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Just be careful. Don't get attached or anything. Sounds like she isn't over him (meaning you're a rebound). What are the details of their break-up?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Sammo

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Chances are she is just testing you to see how you respond. No matter what you do make sure you give her no sign that you care.

Rule of thumb when chicks start talking about their ex - pretend they never said anything at all. Ignore it. She will then start questioning where she stands with you (which is a good thing). Wether she is still caught up on him or is testing you makes no difference, as always act as if she is interested and the belief ussually fulfills itself ;)

Hope that helped.
 
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