Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Need help figuring this girl out

Viper423

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Ok, so I got introduced to this girl at the gym by a mutual friend last week, and this weekend we went out and saw each other friday, saturday, and a little sunday. We made out at her apartment after we watched a movie on friday, our first date, and I was feeling her up and even popped her bra off real quick with one hand but then she was like, " My clothes aren't coming off tonight." I just think she didn't want me to think she is a slut.

But we kept making out and made out some more the next day, and even a little on sunday.

Now, this girl has A LOT of guy friends, and I've learned from past relationships that jealousy is a BAD thing, so I know I shouldn't be jealous because she's messing around with me, not them, and I am confident that I can get any girl I want anyways. With that being said, I want to know what this girl wants. I don't want to come straight out and ask her, cause that'll sound wussy I think.

But I want to know if she wants a relationship or just wants to be friends with benefits. This weekend, she refered to me as her "friend" to her other friends. Like, when I was about to leave, she said,"I'm gonna go outside and tell my friend bye." Then she would come outside and give me a long passionate hug, make me hold her in my arms, then make out with me before I would leave.

Is this girl just trying to get to know me a little better or longer, or is she just an attention *****? I'm positive that she's not seeing any other guys though, just has a lot of guy friends. What do you guys think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She's an AW BIGTIME! She's the type you bang and ditch if you want to get into that. She needs all those admirers for a reason.
 

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Perhaps the more appropriate question you should be asking yourself is what you want. It's obvious she is a shoe-in for your Bedroom Hall of Fame. Beyond that, who knows? You don't really know her that well. Hang out a little more, talk, get a feel for her relationship with all these guy friends.

But most importantly, you must call the shots and control where this is going. From that will flow your actions (and reactions).
 

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I mean, I definetly know she's interested in me, I just don't know if she's playing hard to get or what. When we went out this past weekend, we would hold hands and I would wrap my arms around her from behind, and she would lean into me and stuff. Also, she's a biter and pincher, lol. She likes to pinch my nipples and bite them. Also, when we would stand in line somewhere, she would sometimes bite my shoulder too...don't know if this means anything, but I know she is into me, just might be playing hard to get.

Today at the gym, she just gave me a long hug and I wrapped my hands around her, and she told me she had to go home and do homework and told me to call her later, which i did, but made it short and sweet and said i was goin to bed.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Viper423
I mean, I definetly know she's interested in me, I just don't know if she's playing hard to get or what. When we went out this past weekend, we would hold hands and I would wrap my arms around her from behind, and she would lean into me and stuff. Also, she's a biter and pincher, lol. She likes to pinch my nipples and bite them. Also, when we would stand in line somewhere, she would sometimes bite my shoulder too...don't know if this means anything, but I know she is into me, just might be playing hard to get.

Today at the gym, she just gave me a long hug and I wrapped my hands around her, and she told me she had to go home and do homework and told me to call her later, which i did, but made it short and sweet and said i was goin to bed.
Perhaps it's time for the utlimate litmus test. Invite her over to your place, put the moves on, give her some of your loving. Within 2 days, judging by her behavior, I would say you should have a good idea of what she wants.
 

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Don't stress over it. If she said her clothes weren't coming of that night, then plan a night where she will lose some articles. Maybe after a night at the bar, or at some party, doesn't really matter when, but if she's makin out with you and what not then there's some phsical attraction.

Don't think about it too much, see some other girls on the side if it helps you get in the right mindset. You don't necessarily have to do anything with them, but the additional female interaction will definately help things along. If she knows you're a hot commodity and she could lose you, then she'll likely do what she has to in order to keep your attention. Play off the attention wh*re motif and plan a strategy that's in your favor.
 
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