What’s up guys. So I’ll be straight up and say I have nice guy syndrome. I’ve been scaling it back recently from reading articles on here and other websites. I’m in grad school now at 31 yrs of age in a small class in a small school. Our class became close very quickly because you kind of have to and one girl that me and her became close is 22 yrs old. Of course when I saw her I thought she was attractive but I was more focused on school at the time to really flirt and hang out. The past few months I have started to like her and I think she likes me. She teases me a lot and makes fun of me and I send it back and she likes to sit next to me in most classes. And when we go out to drink she runs around talking to people but she always throughout the night comes back to me, could it be just comfortability because we are friends? Possibly. Also whenever we talk she likes to smack me on the shoulder or leg with the back of her hand a lot. She doesn’t act the way she does to me to anyone else and even our mutual best friend she said to me “she def is into you but she’s young and immature so the age difference might bother her..give her a year to mature.” I have overheard her say that she had broke up with her boyfriend before coming to school and she wants to be single so my thought and other people think that she just wants to go out and hookup with random guys to get it out of her system and then eventually when she matures that she’ll want to date me. And yes I do talk to other girls and pull numbers etc. so it doesn’t seem like I’m only into her. I was just wondering what you all think...is she into me? Should I ignore her at times and continue to use playground tactics of teasing, making fun, and playful hitting likes she does to me? Clearly I’m not a Don Juan lol but I’m doing my best to learn from this site and hopefully you guys can help. Thanks a lot.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Need help because I am new to this
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
backseatjuan
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Clearly you're not. Pulling numbers for anything than getting pvssy don't count as anything. I've send you a PM with a resource, absorb.
By the way, I can't believe you are 31 and still at school, I hope you don't live with your parents as well. As far as this girl goes, she don't need to mature, not for you anyway. Ask her for some drinks and fvck her if you can.
By the way, I can't believe you are 31 and still at school, I hope you don't live with your parents as well. As far as this girl goes, she don't need to mature, not for you anyway. Ask her for some drinks and fvck her if you can.
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Read these: https://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/hall346.htm
Take action and do it fast. Not because you might lose her, but because you need some resolve before you develop oneitus.
There's a quote somewhere on this site along the lines of "If a friend you will be, a friend she will see". Meaning if you act like a friend, she probably sees you as a friend. The things you describe sound friendly. If you want it to be something more, make it clear to her and see how she responds.
Take action and do it fast. Not because you might lose her, but because you need some resolve before you develop oneitus.
There's a quote somewhere on this site along the lines of "If a friend you will be, a friend she will see". Meaning if you act like a friend, she probably sees you as a friend. The things you describe sound friendly. If you want it to be something more, make it clear to her and see how she responds.
backseatjuan
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^Why complicate things, making stuff up, learning something which is time consuming. By asking her to drinks, **drinks**, you show you want you want anyway. Do it. Just make sure it's drinks at a bar you went to and are comfortable in, and be sure to ask her back to your place after that, and if she comes fvck her. Though if you live with your parents, don't bring her to your place.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.