"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Need Help Asking Out A Chinese Woman

itstough

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Ok I plan on asking out this Chinese woman who works in a Chinese resturant near were I work. I have been told so many things about how I should do it being that she is from a different culture. What I have been told is that first if she is shy which she seems to be that it is better to try to be her friend first so she can get to know me. Now I know from the DJ bible that is a big NO NO but in this situation is it the right way to go????? Also what I was told is not to ask her at work. Now I only get to see her at her workplace so I really do not have a choice. Lastly I was told by many people to write a note telling her I want to get to know her better with my phone number on it for her to call me. Once again in her culture is this the right way to go? BTW She is from China I think and she is not been here very long.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ElChoclo

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Think logically;

1 If you only see her where she works, how else are you going to approach her? Follow her home stalker style?

2 Does she speak English? If not maybe you better not be writing any notes.

3 How are you going to be friends unless you first deal with point 1 above.

4 What makes you think that Chinese people like to be introduced by passing bits of paper to each other?

Let's just stick to traditional techniques. Go up and place your order for some gow gees or whatever, crack some sort of a joke, if she laughs ask her when she finishes and if she wants to go somewhere. The end.
 

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ItsTough, I think I have a good idea for you.

You mentioned writing a note, and normally I'd think that

would come off AFC-like. But here's a charming, imaginative, and

humourous way to do this.

This Chinese restaurant gives out a fortune cookie with your

meal, correct? Get on ms Word and type out in the smallest

(but legible) font possible, something like:

(example):
"You will soon be asked out by a great guy."

Then print and cut this out to look and be the same size as a

fortune cookie fortune. On the opposite side of this fortune,

write your name/contact info.

The next time you eat there, carefully crack open the fortune

cookie just enough to remove the orginal fortune, and slip the

new one in. Call this little hottie over, and tell her you think this

fortune cookie has to be for her, not you. (Do this in a half-

serious tone) Make sure she reads it, and

turns it over. Use your imagination, and take it from there,

brother
 

bobbob

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Originally posted by itstough
Ok I plan on asking out this Chinese woman who works in a Chinese resturant near were I work. I have been told so many things about how I should do it being that she is from a different culture. What I have been told is that first if she is shy which she seems to be that it is better to try to be her friend first so she can get to know me. Now I know from the DJ bible that is a big NO NO but in this situation is it the right way to go????? Also what I was told is not to ask her at work. Now I only get to see her at her workplace so I really do not have a choice. Lastly I was told by many people to write a note telling her I want to get to know her better with my phone number on it for her to call me. Once again in her culture is this the right way to go? BTW She is from China I think and she is not been here very long.

Chinese people like oranges, so make sure you give her a gift of a bag of oranges first, before you ask her out, otherwise you will be going against their customs.
 

Jamo

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heh

What do you give American chicks before asking them out? Dildos? :D :crackup:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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joekerr31

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courtesy, friendliness, self confidence and respect are common to all cultures (well, perhaps with the exception fo the USA). haha.

so just do whatever you feel reflects those traits and you'll have done the right thing.

Hey, she might be thinking to herself "if he asks me out how do i respond? How would an american woman respond?"

thats why go with the above mentioned and youll be fine.

J
 

TooColdUlrick

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it's very simple...

herro...how ah you? i rike rittle nookie and papason have big ****y for you. would you preeze go out to me.
 
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