Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Need help asking her out[Urgent]

RandomHotGuy

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Hey,guys I've been browsing these forums for a while now and it has really helped me.
Okay,so there's this girl in my class that I have a crush on. Out of the two years that I'm going to be spending of my college/high school,more than one year has elapsed. We've been in the same class for the whole time.There's only 7-8 months more and I've finally made my mind to stop procrastinating and ask her out. Thing is, the few times we have talked one on one was for school related stuff like borrowing a pen,asking how to solve a problem etc. However, whenever I crack jokes in the class,which is pretty often, everyone laughs and so does she. I've caught her staring at me a couple of times.When I look back at her,she looks down or looks away. I get the feeling that she too is interested in me.
I'm going to ask her out this week so here's what i intend to do.
She is always sitting with her group of 4 girls,herself included. I'll tell her I wanted to talk to her and ask her to come outside.
Once I've reached the place I where I can comfortably talk to her one on one,I'll ask her something along these lines:
Hey *her name*, I was going to (a)watch a movie (b)going to the beach
this weekend and I'd like you to join me.So when are you free?Saturday or Sunday?

Question 1: Should I hold her hand and lead her to the desired place.I don't know if she'll be comfortable with that since she doesn't really know me that well.
Question 2: Where do you guys think I should take her. The main purpose is that it should be fun and give me time to talk to her and get to know her better.
The thing about the beach is that its monsoon season and it might rain so the sand will get all wet and stuff which wouldn't be a good thing. Also, we might not be able to see the beautiful sunset if it gets cloudy and rains.
As far as the movie goes,I feel that if I'd take her there,we'd be watching the movie and we'll barely be talking which is the whole point since talking is the only way we'll get to know each other. I could solve that problem partially by taking her to a coffee shop afterwards.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Watawata

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Ive got some experience, but Im by no means an expert. Also, I havent read this post in detail.

However, and since you probably want a quick response, im going to give you some advice.

First- really do it. It doesnt matter how it will end. Youll be a better man after you do it.

Second- It wont go according to your plan. Dont plan things to much.

Third- After you do it, wheater it works or not, ride that wave of momentum and go more girls. Remember, shes not unique.

And by last, dont give a **** about your reputation. As Jack Wealthy says, It will have higs and downs, but if you keep stepping out youll eventually en up where you want.

good luck
 

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You can take her aside if you want but it's really no big deal just to get her number and ask her over text, in fact that's easier and there's far less pressure on her as none of her friends are watching.
Take her to the beach and actually have something to do there. Tell her you're going to the beach and that she should tag along. If the weather is ****, make a plan bro; it's not hard. Don't ask when she's free, it's up to you when you want to go. Get her number and confirm on the day.

If you want to pull, the ocean is great way to kino. Say you want to go body surf and get her to go with you, take her hand and help her through the waves as you go out. It works, I've done it before.

Like watawata said, just fvcking do it mate
 

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Watawata said:
First- really do it. It doesnt matter how it will end. Youll be a better man after you do it.
I totally agree...gonna ask her out tomorrow

Watawata said:
Second- It wont go according to your plan. Dont plan things to much.
Yeah,I guess I am be planning too much.

Watawata said:
Third- After you do it, wheater it works or not, ride that wave of momentum and go more girls. Remember, shes not unique.
I know...there's this chick(HB 8:yes: ) I saw the other day,one year junior to me.After a month of no fap, its hard for me to sit back and do nothing:box: .If the first one says no then I'll ask this one out:rock: .Besides, I know a lot of other girls but their all HB < 6.5.
 

RandomHotGuy

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DanZy said:
You can take her aside if you want but it's really no big deal just to get her number and ask her over text, in fact that's easier and there's far less pressure on her as none of her friends are watching.
I already have her added on BBM(Blackberry Messenger),so if I wanted to I could text her directly.However, I don't really like texting and stuff,so I'd prefer talking to her directly.[/QUOTE]

DanZy said:
If you want to pull, the ocean is great way to kino. Say you want to go body surf and get her to go with you, take her hand and help her through the waves as you go out.
I wish I had that kind of a beach. Where I live people don't surf:(. So i won't be able to do that kind of stuff.
Regardless of that,I'll make sure to use kino whenever I can.I've used it on another girl before and that's increased her interest level in me.

Thanks for the advice guys,I'm gonna ask her out tomorrow...Let's see how it goes
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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