cooper1234
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Been reading these posts a long time, in fact, I used the DJ handbook to a t to land my recent GF. Had a little rocky road at first with her (her ex kept calling, i didn't freak out, let her do the work, didn't pitch a fit, let her go out didn't pursue her hard.....let her catch me etc), used the techniques......she chased and chased me and we ended up being exclusive. Have known each other for a long time, but have been seriously dating for over 6 months. Has taken me home numerous times to meet the family, she's met mine, everything's been extremely good. She's been pressuring me into moving into a place with her and I resisted for a while, but we agreed to give it a shot and are moving forward with it, haven't done it yet, but have been picking out apartments....she hasn't let her family in on it but has told mine (her's are traditional and it's gonna freak them out). She's had an extremely high interest level, I've used the rules to a t, but feel I might've gotten a bit slack as of late. She was constantly complaining if i wouldn't spend the night, been treating me great, does things for me out of her way.........but things are shifting.
Things have been extremely good between both of us for the majority of the time, se# life has been great up till the new job. She started a new job that gets her to work very early, mine lasts very late, so for the past few weeks we haven't seen each other much but in passing, has taken a toll on the relationship........has been making it dull due to both of us being very tired, no free time. Her interest level has seemed to drop in the past two weeks, she's stopped paging me all the time and calling all the time, but she still calls when she gets off work, txts me, gets me to come over, but our affectionate side has dwindled.
I wonder if I've let things slip and have quit using the rules. I thought after establishing a serious relationship and testing her......i could back off a bit. Have made myself very available for her, talk to her a lot, have spent the night with her about every night for the past few months. Due to past relationships, I've always pulled the plug at this point, when it felt like things were waning...... but she's a great girl, does the right things for me, but it seems like things have shifted the past two weeks where I'm more interested than she. So am I being paranoid here, or do relationships go through periods like this? She was still picking out apartments yesterday, wanting to get things ready for the move, taling long term things......yet we're not as affectionate as usual. She s complaining about stress, time, being tired and worn down, and I can believe it, but the suspicious part of me wonders if it's something else and I should bail. What's your take on this? She invites me around her friends, to come by her work, always has time when I call. Have I gone away from the rules and need to start working them again, and if not the whole gambit, what would you advise? I really care about her, I just dont' want things to go stale and get old.............. What would you suggest???? How do i get this back on track??? Please, not snyde comments, looking for real advice from the experts.
Things have been extremely good between both of us for the majority of the time, se# life has been great up till the new job. She started a new job that gets her to work very early, mine lasts very late, so for the past few weeks we haven't seen each other much but in passing, has taken a toll on the relationship........has been making it dull due to both of us being very tired, no free time. Her interest level has seemed to drop in the past two weeks, she's stopped paging me all the time and calling all the time, but she still calls when she gets off work, txts me, gets me to come over, but our affectionate side has dwindled.
I wonder if I've let things slip and have quit using the rules. I thought after establishing a serious relationship and testing her......i could back off a bit. Have made myself very available for her, talk to her a lot, have spent the night with her about every night for the past few months. Due to past relationships, I've always pulled the plug at this point, when it felt like things were waning...... but she's a great girl, does the right things for me, but it seems like things have shifted the past two weeks where I'm more interested than she. So am I being paranoid here, or do relationships go through periods like this? She was still picking out apartments yesterday, wanting to get things ready for the move, taling long term things......yet we're not as affectionate as usual. She s complaining about stress, time, being tired and worn down, and I can believe it, but the suspicious part of me wonders if it's something else and I should bail. What's your take on this? She invites me around her friends, to come by her work, always has time when I call. Have I gone away from the rules and need to start working them again, and if not the whole gambit, what would you advise? I really care about her, I just dont' want things to go stale and get old.............. What would you suggest???? How do i get this back on track??? Please, not snyde comments, looking for real advice from the experts.