"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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KillingTime

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Ive mentioned this here before, i think. There's this girl ive been talking to online for 2 years (weve seen each other in person, but just for a few minutes). I know that seems kind of weird but we never had any intentions of anything, she was just a friend of a friend that I started talking too online... anyway for like the past 6 months things have been intensely flirty, she finally told me she had really strong feelings for me (i do too) a while back, but nothing really happened, i asked her out but she;s really scared to meet me in person now b/c of the awkwardness (i could care less, but shes pretty shy).
So we've still been talking, i never message her, she's the one that constantly im's me and is still very flirty despite the fact that i always talk very sexual to her and junk (she claims she's not into that, but she keeps comin back) so there is at least some attraction. The thing is we're not getting anywhere, mostly i think b/c of her fear of the awkwardness... i dont blame her, i mean two years online is a LOT.... but can something be done about this on my part? I can tell she likes me but shes a wuss and i know if i don't do something, she definately won't... what should i do? Should I basically tell her to take things further or its over? or should i try to somehow make her feel more comfortable about it?? Advice...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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WaterTiger

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Two years....TWO YEARS:confused: She's afraid of meeting you after talking to you for two years? This chick is wierd! If you haven't convinced her by this time that you aren't a serial killer, I don't see a lot of hope for the future.

Put your foot down, tell her you want to meet for coffee or something small & casual. If she refuses, then don't answer her messages for a while. Every time she tries to contact you tell her to "say it in person or not at all".
 

Don Ronny

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This sounds normal to me. I am scared of everyone online. Especially WaterTiger! *shudders*
 

splinterkb

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I wouldn't suggest trying to hook-up with someone that you only talk to online. First, you dont know if your chemistry matches with her. Second, people aren't the same in person as they are on the internet.
 

Ser_i

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I'm sorry but leave that GOD DAMN SAFETY ZONE you are operating from in your room....

don't want to sound nagging, but dude come on.. you're on this board.. it's about expanding your little safety zone from your room.. to every god damn place you lay foot on..

online "DJing.. isn't DJ'ing.. it's fooling yourself..

if she didn't have the guts... or forget about her.. if you don't have the guts, or persuation to get her to meet you in person then you shouldn't spend to much time on this.. like.. come on.. are you guys gonna have cyber s3x when you get all horny from internet kisses ?

come... read the bible!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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